thanks so much for your input
Hope I was able to help a little!
I am happy to see strong women talk about this knowledgeably. Well done.
thank you for your comment orangeinme 😊
Please help me to understand. As I understand it, asexual people don't have sexual desires per the definition of being a-sexual (without sex). Yet here you are, masturbating, and giving hand-jobs and strip dances. It sounds more like you simply don't like sex with penises, or perhaps with men or other people. You sound fully sexual, just not... intercourse minded? Do you like any type of sexual contact with others, like cunnilingus? I'm afraid I don't understand how your sexuality fits into the definition of asexuality.
hi, thanks for your questions. being asexual doesn't mean abstaining for sex or sexual acts, it just means that the person isn't sexually attracted to people. some asexuals don't do anything sexual, yes, but some are ok with masturbation since it's more about the feeling it creates for themselves rather than a desire for another person. Many asexuals don't think about other people or anything "sexy" while masturbating.
also, choosing to have sex with a partner doesn't mean they have sexual attraction to them. many asexuals are romantically attracted to people. they may choose to have sex because they want their partner to be fulfilled, not because they themselves actually desire sex. it could be more about emotion than desire for asexuals. though there are asexuals who are repulsed and abstain from all sex, some are indifferent towards it. hope you can understand
Yup! Some asexuals love to do things for themselves, some asexuals love sex, some are repulsed by all of it or some just dislike it some aspects of sex related things.It just means that when I look at someone, I don't think in my head "I'd like to have sex with them" I don't look at people with sexual intent.
So when you're doing a strip tease, what is going through your head? If I'm understanding you correctly, you're not interested in having sex with him, but you must know that you are making him desire you. How does that work for you? Also, if you masturbate, why couldn't you use, say his tongue, to masturbate with? That's a lot of questions, but I'm trying to understand.
thank you for your questions and trying to understand. I think it's different for each asexual person but for me personally I don't think I would think of much while teasing. I wouldn't mind if it were for a lover and he asked me to, since I want him to feel fulfilled even if I don't need anything in return. I would be ok if he wanted used his tongue but I feel indifferent and honestly it wouldn't make a difference if he did or not. I don't feel the need for sexual fulfilment from other people.
Thank you for taking the time to answer my questions. I have never been a big fan of people categorizing themselves to the extent that they do now. You know, asexual, demisexual, etc., but I don't feel you really fit the "true" asexual criteria. Another category is needed? LOL! Maybe narcissosexual? No disrespect intended, I don't mean to imply that you are narcissistic in other contexts. This is kind of an overly sexual thing for me to say, so you might want to stop reading now... But personally, as a guy, if you could get off by using my tongue to masturbate with, I'd consider that to constitute a sexual relationship.
Hi asker, I just realized that I was trying to address @oneinchyuri more than you, because she was the one who brought up strip tease etc. My questions must have seemed very off-topic to you. Sorry.That's not to say that I didn't appreciate your response, and it helped me understand your position and situation better. Thank you.
Well, my boyfriend and I have talked and he is fine with it. He masturbates to my body. Personally I am uncomfortable with things like that at this point in my life but I haven't completely ruled anything out.
I'm sorry, but you're uncomfortable with which parts?
Well, you're only 16. You're a little young to be sexually active anyway. Why is your usernameame one inch lesbian porn?
One inch- smallYuri- its a japanese name.-. it means lily
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thanks so much for your input 😊
No, just because you wouldn't doesn't rule out everyone lol. Sorry but you don't speak for all men.
guys have penises... penises are like keys... women have vaginas... vaginas are like locks... KEYS GO IN LOCKS!!! A KEY WITHOUT A LOCK IS A WORTHLESS PIECE OF METAL AND SAME GOES FOR A LOCK WITHOUT A KEY... DONT BE FUCKING DUMB!!!
I can masturbate honey :) I'm not interested in some ugly ass penis going up my vagina. Not appealing to me thanks and the same goes for asexual men. Not broken, not useless, just not interested kthnx
... idiots... all idiots...
thanks for the input, but there is a difference between just friends and relationships. asexuals can be romantically attracted to people, wanting to do things like kissing or basically anything between lovers besides sex
Miss me with the bullshit girl for real. A relationship without sex is called friendship. We are not kids to walk around only kissing and stuff. Sounds like not even you know what asexual means tbh.
thanks for your input, but it's rude for you to say I'm the one who doesn't know the meaning. if sex is the only thing that defines relationships then casual sex and friends with benefits would be a contradiction
ROMANTIC ATTRACTION DOES NOT EQUAL SEXUAL ATTRACTION. Sorry guys but you are mistaken with these. You can love someone much more than a friend and have a romantic relationship without sex. :)
thank you for the clarification 😊
It really irks me when people don't understand asexuality. They refuse to acknowledge the differences between the different kinds of relationships. I'm sorry but when did sex become neccessary and equivalent to dating?
I feel the same way. I try to be understanding since I acknowledge that sex is an important aspect of relationships and feeling valued, but it's not the end all be all. I think that a romantic relationship can be fulfilling even without sex...
Don't come at me with your weak psychology please.
whatever makes you feel better then. we all have different ways of living and loving.
That's right. Have a nice day
I am asexual and my boyfriend is not :) There are compromises and we both respect each others sexuality. We both understand each others needs, wants and comfortable limits and work together to keep both happy.
@oneinchyuri Your boyfriend must have a very low sex drive then.
Actually, he doesn't :)
@oneinchyuri So why did you get into a relationship with him? I feel like at some point he's gonna want sex.
We have talked. And being asexual does not mean we won't have sex by the way :)
Platonic and romantic relationships are different. I am sorry you cannot differentiate romantic and sexual either. :( Whoever your partner is I feel bad. Romantic interest is not the same as sexual soo...
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celibacy is a choice, regardless of someone's sexual attraction. asexuals can choose to have sex if they want to, it just means that they don't feel sexual attraction
So whoever had sex with an asexual, such as yourself, would have to have sex with someone who wasn't sexually attracted to them. You're right. They could have sex with you, but God, how hard up would they have to be to endure it? I mean, it would be very *similar* (I'm not saying identical, just similar in some ways) to having sex with a prostitute (no, I'm not calling you a prostitute). Presumably, and according to reports, prostitutes do not enjoy sex, nor are they sexually attracted to their customers. They have to fake their enjoyment of the act. Those are the similarities that I am referring to. Granted, you might feel romantic towards the person, but you would not be feeling any enjoyment or attraction in the act. As a man, I cannot imagine anything more - I'm trying to find a nonjudgmental word - *off-putting* than that, short of rape. Even with a prostitute I would be able to tell myself that she was at least getting paid enough to offset any distaste on her part.
Why would you want to force someone that you presumably loved on some level through such a degrading experience?Find an asexual like yourself, and make each other happy.