How do I find guys that are interested in more than just my looks?

Anonymous
Don't get me wrong, I'm human and I like to be made to feel desired and attractive just like everyone else. But I can't seem to find many guys that actually attempt to get to know me on a more personal level. I get hit on frequently, but it feels like every guy I meet uses small talk as a means to an end to sleep with me. They only want to hang out in situations where we'll be drinking or going out. I'm intelligent and a good conversationalist - if it even gets to the point of a legitimate conversation. I'm by no means desperate so I don't give off that vibe. But I get told all the time that my problem is that I "don't give anyone a chance" when really, I'm just not looking to meet a fuck buddy, I want someone who actually wants to get to know me sober.
How do I find guys that are interested in more than just my looks?
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