We'll he has taken me on dates, I don't officially know how he feels about me because he hasn't told me, I just know by how he acts around me. I want to make sure we're drinking before I ask him. how he feels about me, isn't that a good idea. But I can't even get him to hangout with me :(
I dont think it's a good idea to ask him after he's been drinking. You're going to want him to be sober and honest with you. If you can't get him to make time for you then he probably doesn't want to. If that's the case then he's not the guy you want to be with anyways.
Although like I said he acts like he really likes me and always comes back to contact me after some time but its awhile. Also, the truth comes out for guys when there drunk
Don't let him pop in and out of your life when he feels like it. That type of behavior is not cool. Im sure there are others who would love to go out with you and actually show consistent interest in you. If you have to go through all this I promise you he's not worth it. Either way I hope it all works out for you.
Well should I tell him he needs to be consistent or something?
He says he's busy though and tells me what he does
Tell him you're concerned about how he feels about you and you want to spend more time with him and get to know him. The best thing to do is be upfront and let him know you're serious about wanting to see him. Nobody is that busy. If someone is interested they will always find time to spend with you.
We known each other for years so I almost don't need to get to know him
Ok thats good but you only know him as a friend.. not a companion. There are people that have been married for years and are still learning each other because people grow. Our personalities, likes, and maturity levels change. Also if you've known each other for years then he shouldn't leave you hanging like you are now. He should be comfortable with telling you how he feels and about spending time with you since he already knows you.
What if I have known him for years as a companion like an ex?
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Because I already asked him 2 weekends in a role and he had plans, I don't want to look desperate.Besides if he likes me a lot shouldn't he ask me to hang out a lot more?
What makes you think he doesn't think the same way about not wanting to look desperate? If you want to hangout with him when he doesn't have plans then just tell him. Be the plans that he is making.
If he keeps telling you he has plans then it's time to move on
I don't know why he's busy or not through. Like if he's working from home on one day, why can't he see me too? And about moving on, I will just go about my bussiness like I don't care and then he'll come back and contact me and want to get together?