How do I enjoy my freedom? I'm feel insecure right now. I feel like I need a girl, but i'm not good enough.
You think you are insecure and you need a girl to change that?No, you have to work on yourself, and YES you can enjoy your freedom because you will have enough girlfriends and spouses and wife... I wish I was your age again dude --_-- appreciate the fact that you are young !!! ENJOY LIFE it's simple and easy
I'm just insecure because I haven't dated/had sex yet.
I don't have either. It's not that bad.
I just feel like it is a bad thing because i'm guy. I feel like girl expect a guy to have experience.
Then just say you have experience
I feel like you shouldn't lie about it though.
Not like she would mind. I know some guys who have do it and they didn't have any problem with it.Except the one who said he was sleeping with a new girl every week.I don't see in what it's a big deal honeslty.
Yeah I guess it just might be the society i've grown up in.
there's 2 ways really. Either you are ashamed of it and lie. Either you don't care and is honest about it. No need to overthink it.
I think I should be honest.
Then be honest
How is college a better time for dating? I've never had a girlfriend or being asked out by a girl. I'm about to be a senior in high school.
Most importantly, you will be in classes with people that share your interests. That takes one of the most difficult parts of dating, finding somebody you have things in common with, out of the equation. Second, many of girls have little interest in dating during high school, but almost all of them want to date in college. That gives you more viable options, and a higher chance of success when asking a girl out.Third, all of the burn out jocks who took the hottest girls in high school are now stuck with shitty jobs, and can no longer steal the women from you. This gives you less competition and more options.
I see. I think for me the biggest issue has always been confidence in myself. I hold myself back when it comes to girls. My inexperience holds me back.
That was the exact same problem I had. I just graduated a few weeks ago, and thinking about it, I probably could have gotten half the girls in the school, but I never had the guts.20/20 hindsight, eh?But don't worry about it. Maybe you date somebody senior year, maybe not. Either way you will be fine.
Maybe so. I'm just worried.
Relax. It's not a big deal. It might feel like it (sure did for me) but it isn't overall. It will have no impact on your ability to date in college, and within a year or two, nobody will care who dated who in high school. Like I said, unless you are super worried about getting laid, it's really just practice for college.
Okay but I feel like it's expected of me (by girls) to of had a relationship with a girl by now. I'm a late bloomer and im insecure about that.
Well, that's another benefit of college. Nobody knows what anyone else has done.
Describe yourself, it might help me customize my advice.
That's true. Me, I like to play sports, I like to write about some things (I'm a writer for my school newspaper), and I'm one of the leaders in my school's business club.
Cool. What sports do you play?
Football and wrestling for me school. I play basketball with my friends some times.
Cool. With that, you have two advantages. One, you have a pretty good chance at getting a girl if you ask.Two, if you tell people you didn't date because you didn't want to, they will believe you, since it is widely believed that if a football player wants a girlfriend, he usually has one.
Yeah. true. I just need confidence
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I do feel that but I think I put it on myself.
Then just block it out and focus on you maybe you might lucky and start dating when you least expect it during high school
Well I don't have much time. I'm a senior next year.
Well maybe college will be your year
I certainly hope I get that lucky
It feels like I need to have experience with girls before I enter college, even if I don't like a girl. Which I don't.
Who cares if ur fresh with no experience, id prefer that over insincere relationships
Yeah but at some point I feel like it would be a turn off. For some at my age (17) it would be. For some it might be a turn off at 25 or 30. I also don't do hook ups
I've tried to date but haven't been successful or I didn't end up liking them
Do girls in college care?
Cool. I feel like I have to though. But I don't think the reason for that makes sense.
So u date now? 😉
Not at the moment
LOL how kid?
You are male surrounded by girls who want a boyfriend... why wouldn't you date?
Because some might focus on school and/or sports. I don't think not dating makes someone a loser.
plenty of time for school work, sports and girls.. but its your choice
Are you involved in any extracurricular activities?
yeah i play football and im in a band
Ok fair enough, but for some people in high school you just are really unsuccessful for certain reasons. Also some people don't have the confidence.
Girls are just humans too who want to have fun and feel loved just like guys do, there's nothing to be shy about - just talk to them!
I'm not saying that I can't talk to girls, that is not my problem. My problem is me. It has nothing to do with not talking to them. Also some people are just born shy. Anyway that's all I have to say.
Asker, ignore this prick. I can tell from analyzing his responses that he is likely single, and has never dated. He is trying to make himself feel superior by shitting on you. That or he recently got a girl and now thinks he's real hot shit, even though he is not. I've seen that plenty of times too, and it is usually closely followed by a breakup, and the harsh reality of his true patheticness falling on him like a ten-ton wack of excrement.