After years of sitting on the sidelines for 26 years without a date, I finally got in shape and am physically and mentally ready to start dating, my confidence level has never been better. I joined e harmony and have a few contacts with girls. One girl contacted me and for 2 weeks we were constantly texting each other like 50 times a day. We had a great 1st date last Friday, a lot of flirting and basic get to know you talk, I thought we had good chemistry with no awkward moments. Ended the date with a big hug and a kiss on the cheek and tentative plans for another date in a few weeks. I texted her after the date to thank her and told her she I thought she rocked. She replied the same. I laid off texts for a day then started again on Sunday. I don't know if I am being played here. Now she is responding to (most) of my texts. And her responses have been nice and flirty. BUT, she doesn't send me anymore messages other than her responses. Now we only talk like 2-3 times a day. I'm thinking she just loves attention but she is getting cold feet or has found somebody more interesting. Not sure if I should pursue this anymore. Do you girls like when a guy is persistent? Or is she just being nice playing me on a string? Today I was going to send her 1 more text, and if she doesn't send me anymore other than her response, I think I shouldn't anymore. Just started dating and I already have a headache.
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Good for you for having the confidence to try online dating. I think it is a great way to meet people.
A good way to get your confidence up for online dating is to date more than one person at once. Don't put all your eggs in one basket, as they say, and you will be less scared of rejection, because you have some other cutie to fall back on.
Women are very concerned with how they come off, especially at the beginning of a relationship. They don't want to seem too eager. They want to make it seem like they have choices (even if they don't) so that the man will persue them. Most women expect men to persue them at the beginning. You must do the asking for dates. Since you said you went on a great first date with this girl, CALL HER and ask for a second. If she agrees, she likes you enough to want to spend more time with you, so there is your answer.
At the same time, you must also appear interested, but like you have other options too. If he come on too strong in the beginning and appear desperate, the girl may back off because he doesn't seem like such a great catch anymore. I am sure you have a great job, friends, and interesting hobbies. Despite your lack of dating experience, remember that and keep your confidence.
My advice is to lay off the text messaging completely until you have been on three dates with someone. 50 times a day texting is way too much. Remember, you are a great catch with and awesome life and lots of options. You don't have time to spend all day texting with one girl. It may sound like a game, but if you learn to play it right you can turn a lot more first dates into second and beyond dates.2