What questions do you dislike being asked on a first date?
What Guys Said 122
I dated a few months in 2015 (maybe 10 first dates), settled into a 2 year relationship, and then dated 6 women in the past three months. I don't recall any of them asking me any uncomfortable questions.
I don't know why other guys are bothered by being asked about their jobs. It is not necessarily a backhanded way of asking about your salary. Your job says something about who you are and what you have accomplished in life. If you are embarrassed by the question, maybe it is your answer that is the problem.22
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Ill answer pretty much any question and I love great Conversation that follows good questions , but questions about ex's and questions about finances or assumptions that I'm a broke loser since I am self employed as a musician are big no no's. Politics are also a big turn off. The government is fucked up, its corrupt and there's nothing we can go about it. Ignore it and live your life. Dont like reality TV bullshit questions. Finally these last two are the biggest ones. You're single? For how long and why? This one though is the Worst. You're a virgin? Are you gay, how can you be 21 and still be a virgin? You must be a loser.1
1. Tell me a bit about your exes?
2. How many partners did you've in total and how many have you slept with?
3. Can we have sex? (I thinks we should know each other better before doing that. Same applies to kiss, hugs, touch etc. Only verbal flirting is okay on first date)
4. How do you imagine the future? (We should know each other better and too early thinking on marriage, kids etc.)
5. I'm a bit curious on what's wrong with you? (If it's not STD I won't share my diagnoses or health history on my first date)
6. Do you love me? (We needs to know each other better)0
All of them!! lol I hate dating and "getting to know" each other, all the talking about myself and explaining, I wish they could just know without me having to say it all. lol2
Not first dates but I greatly despise when people ask what is your background, where are you from or where are your parents from
Almost as if you are being judged before you even get a chance to say another word. Well not almost. You are being judged immediately through sterotypes etc...1
How long have you been single?
What are you looking for?3
The one about my height. And about sports. Now…one is obvious. I’m tall. OK? we all can see it. Could you…like…I don’t know…move on? I mean…it’s like everyone in your vicinity would point out something obvious on you. It’s just annoying. Sports, that’s not the obvious one. I don’t like doing or watching sports. That’s it. Topic closed. I know, you cannot know that, sure, so I don’t get mad or anything, but it’s still annoying. Same would go for family (feel free to ask why), cars, politics, and couple more of topics. I either don’t want to talk about them, and for that there are reasons, which, again, I might not want to share with you (do you see, how quickly we get several layers deep? Nothing is easy with me), or that topic is uninteresting for me. I don’t care about it in my free time and/or I don’t know what to say. But again, I’m not one of those people, who just…if you’ll bring that topic, you’re finished (and this is how I could sum up my interaction with certain percentage of women). I consider that childish. And stupid.0
When we sit down and the first thing she asks is -very bluntly- "so what do you think of this bathroom bill shit" or anything else overtly controversial in the most inorganic way imaginable. If we wind up Segway into politics and religion that's fine, but forcing that type of conversation is the BIGGEST turn off (next to asking me my dick size/wallet size).2
About ex 😡3
Anything that is an inquiry into income or status.
This kind of shit is why I don't date, just fuck.0
Only one that I denote and that is previous relationships are not important to ask about on first date, what matters is i'm spending time with you.
Asking my career is totally fine and warranted, its a big passion of mine and would lead into even more conversation about my hobbies and what not.0
Cheque or savings?0
Religious belief, political stance and affiliation. I'm not being interviewed to join any organization here.4
Where do I see my self in 10yr if they have to ask not with them an what sign are you then do you want kids what age did have my first girl friend why not just ask he old were you when you lost your virginity why not just ask the basics till we see if we connect before I'm asked how many girl friends have you had so far1
What did u do for a living0
If you even mention star sign I'm asking for the cheque1
"If we work out would you consider adopting my son/daughter?"
(If she's a single mom.)0
what do you study
i study 6 degrees...1
Any question that makes the whole thing feels like a job interview...4
Height. A woman will tell me that I look tall enough but my specific height will be a deal breaker2
my life is a open book. now if you want to dig into it, be prepared for sarcasm and some very, squirm in your seat, personal questions from me.2
"How much $$$ do you posses?"4
what's yo ur timeline for marriage2
Anything about money. Dont show me what I already am thinking about you, I go into every new relationship skeptical. My profile up to about two years ago had my job title and I was attracting gold diggers and lazy women.0
How much money do you make?
I mean it's definitely relevant at some point down-the-line but when it's one of the 1st questions out of the gate, that's uncomfortable.3
I can't think of anything I wouldn't want to be asked or told. The more information we exchange on a first date, the better. I don't like wasting my time or anyone else's. The sooner we know whether we're compatible or not the better.3
The question to have sex, since that's too early... sex for pleasure is not my thing at all :-(1
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What Girls Said 65
"So, tell me about yourself."
Okay, technically that's not a question. However, I hate when people ask me such a broad question and I never know what to answer. I don't want to sit there and tell my whole life story while he occasionally nods to let me know that he's still listening. It doesn't seem like a genuine way to get to know someone.25
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I hate being asked about how much money I make, mostly just because it's awkward and it seems like someone is trying to apply monetary value to a person. I've never asked how much someone has made lol. Typically just knowing their job is enough to get a rough idea.
I really hate being asked sex questions off the bat too. Like how many sex partners I've had or what the craziest thing I've done sexually is - I'd be open to answering those questions later down the line but not on a first date. It's awkward.
Lastly I hate it when guys are quick to ask me "What do you think of me?" It just seems like you're being put on the spot to give them reassurance that they've yet to botch your date or not.3
I welcome the discussion of sex if it comes up, but I don't like being asked personal sex questions such as whether or not I can squirt or fetish-like questions like whether or not I like to be peed on. These things are just not needed to know on first dates. However, my views on sexual health, sexuality, birth control, etc. are all actually good to talk about - as long as the topic of sex doesn't verge on becoming invasive.3
I went on a date with a guy and he asked me how my last boyfriend and I broke up. After I responded he was like: "so how are you still single? You seem like a catch". And then ended the date with "so. When am I gonna meet your family?" This was all on our first date haha. He pretty much asked me all the wrong questions.1
Anything that's too explicitly sexual or personal questions.5
Asking about the persons virginity on a first date is a no no for me , I hate it when guys ask about my previous relationships / my ex on a first date.4
I guess where you see yourself in the future. I hate that question and its even used in job interviews, how should i know? Its the future im not in the future right now. Also the are you in school? I tell them no them they"ll ask why then you have to tell you have no interest in college. They'll sit there and automatically assume you dont do anything with your life or that your not ambitious enough and just dead end.0
What do you do for a living? It just screams boredom2
Being asked, "What kind of guys do you like?". I think this is dumb, when I'm already on date (1st) with this guy. 💕3
What's your type of guy?
Mainly because I don't have a type; each of my ex-boyfriends have been completely different from one another.
But I'd happily describe Christian Grey to them and watch them roll their eyes 😂1
Anything along the lines if we are going to sleep together.2
1. How many people have you slept with
2. Wanna go to mine?
3. Are you over your ex
Asking what I want out of us... when they ask what my bra size is... when they ask how I feel about marriage and having kids...
Some things are more comfortable to ask further on in the relationship.2
"So, why are you single?"
"How long have you been single?"
OMG stop it.6
hmm.. about my ex I guess..1
stuff regarding sex and my ex1
Basically anything to do with previous relationships or my sex life0
Besides the obvious questions, what are you passionate about
I never have an answer ready and you would think given the amount of times I've been asked that, I would be able to recite an answer :/0
I wouldn't like to be asked about dating history0
"what are you thinking about?"2
I'd rather the guy seeks for my personality than get himself ease by saying tell me about yourself!
what kind of question is that, should I carry on some resume with me so you can get relax during the date?
use that brain and ask more detailed questions!1
"Tell me about yourself" like can be specific. I'm 18 years old so do you really want me to tell you 18 years of my life in the amount of time we're on this date?0
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