So if you were talking to a girl and she was very independent meaning she has her own house, her own car, her own money, not in debt and really just got her head on right, would it bother you. Seems that guys that I have dated seem to be bothered by it. I have took care of my son and I by myself for 10 years and I do have issues with help I am just so used to doing things for myself that I just do it and don't ask for any help.
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I was a single parent of four for what seemed like forever *grins* I know how tough it can be to make ends meet and raise kids at the same time. You get so used to doing it all that letting any part of it go seems like life or death.
I have a lot of respect for anyone who can come out the other side as far ahead as you.
The problem you are facing is the guys you are going out with haven't been there. They see you as someone who doesn't need them, and for a lot of things they are right. They don't see that this isn't who you choose to be so much as had to be.
You aren't looking for Mr Right to rescue you. You are looking for a guy to stand with you. That is rather intimidating to many guys as they just aren't sure what to do.
They have to move outside the comfort zone so to speak. After all isn't it the princes job to save the damsel in distress? LOL
There are guys out there who will accept your accomplishments for what they are, and you for the woman they have been looking for. Just keep kissing toads...one will finally stop hopping and kiss you back.1