I have social anxiety and i just can't ever talk to guys or or initiate conversations with anyone face to face, for that matter no one talks to me at all, because I'm 99% sure that i put off an unapproachable vibe because I'm always so tense, like when I'm in class or out shopping, --- any situations like that make me tense because i feel like everyone is staring at me and judging me, I'm always hyper aware of people around me. And I'm pretty sure i have a "resting bitch face" too, if I'm not full on smiling, i just look mad or snobby even though I'm not. And i know some people will probably tell me to just start talking to people in person, but i just can't, its easier said then done for me, i know i'd just chicken out like i always do because my anxiety wins most of the time. I feel like my only chance in ever having a relationship would be through online dating because at least i could be able to chat with someone online a little first, so then i think i'd make it a little easier to meet in person.
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Most Helpful Guy
I have the same problem. I give off a very serious vibe to people. I look pissed off all the time also. I'm a friendly person, I just have trouble starting conversations or really talking a lot to people in general. I tend to just stay silent and fade away once things seem kinda hopeless to me. It is easier to talk to people online though... I do have a problem with maintaining a conversation though since I'm just not used to it. I don't know what direction to carry the conversation or what to talk about most of the time.1
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Yes but it is completely up to you as online dating is not for everyone.
I understand your concerns and I'm one of the lucky people who happen to have something real come out of it, but you STILL need to remember and be very careful of people on there.
If someone shows even the slightest red flag upon just talking to them, it's best you don't further communicate with them, cause generally people show their best self in the beginning.
ONLY ever do something once you feel more comfortable to do so, and really trust your gut feeling, it tells you a lot.
Take it step by step and only go further once you feel it's right to do so for example first you start with messaging online and see how things go, the next step is talking with them over the phone, and once you're comfortable with that you eventually meet them.
Always meet them in a public space and be sure friends know where you are.
Only you can judge of when you're ready, THINKING IS GOOD, but so is over thinking, everyone is different so go with the flow ^~^
Wishing you all the best, feel free to message me if you want any advice or details :)
Stay safe 💜4