My boyfriend won't post pics of us on social media. Should I worry?

So my boyfriend is Indian and we have been dating for almost a year. Things went pretty well and he introduced me to all his friends and his sister. But he never posts anything about us on social media. I talked with him and he said he doesn't want his family or relatives to know at an early stage. His family and culture are conservative and most of his friends has this arranged marriage stuff, which makes me really worry. If that scares him that much, then will it become a stakeholder for our relationship? Is it worth it? I start to think about breaking up before things go too far already but it just makes me really sad :( Help!


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  • No. no. no. I also dated a foreign guy who would try and hide me and make excuses like that as to why. I also had met all his friends and family. I even went to his country. I later found out he had told his family that I was just a "friend." He told his friends other bad things. And this was us living together 5 years.

    If you are an outsider his family will never accept you as a wife much less a girlfriend. There is no exception to this. You can google countless stories of women who were used for years only for their foreign/traditional man to go and marry someone who their family is more approving of or even worse the ones that were married and who were divorced so that they could marry someone from their country.

    The traditional families tend to view most western women as unsuitable marriage material. It doesn't matter how untrue this is or how good of a woman you are. His excuse of not wanting them to know at an early stage is BS. It's been a year. Not weeks or months. I won't write all the details about what happened with me because I don't want to keep going on, but I can tell you from his behavior you WILL wind up hurt and heartbroken

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  • He is just not ready yet. His family traditions and stuff make me think he has a good reason not to feel comfortable with posting stuff on social media yet. I guess he would prefer his friends and relatives to find out in person when he is ready to tell them rather then by surprise. Have you posted anything of you and him together on social media? If so, how did he respond?

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    • I have posted our picture on Instagram. He is pretty happy with it, but won't post anything himself.

    • Then I guess he is just not ready. It takes time for some people especially for someone from a family like his with those strict traditions such as arranged marriages?

  • Dude u mentioned him being Indian that tells us everything, most indian families won't allow their kids to be dating others without their approval

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    • Yea I know but I thought I could give it a try. He is not a kid anyway. 24 years old and I just can't imagine he didn't even have the freedom to see someone

    • Yeah they're that strict, doesn't matter how old they are unfortunately even (sometimes) though they move out the parents are always there

  • I don't even have social media, what matters to me isn't everyone elses eyes. Just hers. I don't like the idea of social media posting about our relationship. No one needs to know unless we are engaged or something. I like to keep my relationships private or until I am asked about them.

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  • Be worried. Girl you should be happy. Whats with everyone wanting to thrust. Themselves into the entire world over the web. Are peoples lives really that empty? Maybe he just dosnt want to share your beauty with everyone.

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  • A lot of Indians are weird about going Facebook official. Honestly, yes, you SHOULD be worried, because his parents will probably want him to break up with you so he can marry an Indian. I'm sorry that you're having to go through this... I've been there. I'm a white boy who fell for an Indian girl.

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  • Not all guys like to post pictures or statuses on social media. In the 3 years I've been dating, my guy only posted 2 pictures of us together. Why? Because he says that it's not necessary. Also, cheesy pictures of couples made him feel miserable when he was single, so he doesn't want to do this for his single friends.

    Your boyfriend comes from a conservative family and culture. It's perhaps not common to show the world how happy he is with you...

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    • So how did it go with you and your guy? And how do you tell whether he is just not social or he is keeping his options open?

    • We met through a dating site. He removed the apps from his phone a week after we met. So for me that was the sign that he is serious about this.

      I personally don't share my whole life on FB either. I have lots of photos but I don't have the need to show them to everyone.

  • Who cares about social media? I can't stand people who don't think their relationship is "official" if it isn't on social media. How about you share experiences and memories between you two and not all your friends and family?

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  • Your boyfriend's family seems to be strict enough that he doesn't want to tell them anything about his personal life, unless you are about to get engaged or married. Also, it's different if he talks with them face to face and informs them in a gentle and tactful manner he's seeing someone, than if they suddenly see pictures of you on social media.

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  • If guys don't post things on fb about you I can see where trust issues might come in but maybe he's just not fully ready to show the world. I didn't do that with my boyfriend either not because I didn't care but why tell the world your with someone than weeks or mths later have to tell people your not with them anymore its embarrassing and people dnt always need to know your business unless you know that you know it'll last awhile..2nd it could be also because he's Indian he has certain requirements.. they do have arranged marriages but maybe his family might not completely agree with it.. my bro in laws bro married an Indian and the dad was so upset with her he tried to do everything to end that relationship

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  • i'd be concerned if i were you.
    is he ok with getting disowned?

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