Are you more attracted to someone who's similar or different than you?

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  • I love my girlfriend and how we are into the same things like we are currently in a long distance relationship but she's coming over here in a few months when she gets her car and so we'll just be cuddling and playing video games together and going on walks at night cause we both like night walks over walking in the daytime, we have the same thought process except that even though I'm only 17 I've been studying psychology for years and can always basically read people's minds and help them with their problems (when I read hers about her fantasies she gets frustrated cause it turns her on and it was supposed to be her secret)

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  • I think I'm initially attracted to people similar to me but someone who'd be different might work out better.

    I guess the ideal situation would be a mix of similar and different traits that would work well together.

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What Guys Said 76

  • I want a girl who is similar in values, but practically the direct opposite in personality.

    What I mean is that I want a girl with the same morals as I have. However, I'm outgoing, while I want a girl who is shy. I'm energetic, while I want a girl who is calm. I'm blunt, while I want a girl who is tactful.

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  • I would say similar, but then again, I think an extrovert would balance me out nicely. I love to get high energy sometimes, but need the right people to amp things up. That said, similarly feels more like a kindred spirit and I love being understood and appreciated for who I am. If my partner can appreciate me and I can appreciate them, then really, it doesn't matter that much.

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  • That depends. I’m more attracted to someone who shares same values and goals... we don’t have to like same things as long as both of us are open minded and willing to try new things. Regarding her personality, I tend to be attracted to who’s different than me.

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  • Similar in certain ways, but most definitely different in others. I'm an introvert, and I'd need another introvert, but when I see the things I hate most about myself in other people I tend to not be attracted to them. That being said my issues tend to manifest themselves in other guys as opposed to women, so I'm not too worried about that

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  • Not having anything in common might be a problem, you have less activities that you can surely enjoy together, but having differences is important, this creates an entertaining relationship where you discover other fields with your partnerwho can show you their World

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  • I would enjoy somebody who's a bit different than I. There are some key personality traits that would need to be the same (somebody who is clean, ambitious, honest), but I don't want to date myself. Challenge me to try new food, visit new places, or look at something through a different perspective.

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  • I guess it depends on the type of person you are. If you like to stay in your comfort zone, you probably choose someone like you but if you want to grow and expand your knowledge, you seek an opposite personality type.

    They say opposites attract, while that's true, you still need to have some things in common with a potential mate

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  • Well, I think that someone with similar interests certainly helps. If they're interested in the same things as me or have similar political opinions to me, I may find it easy to get comfortable around them.

    When it comes to personality, I'm quite open minded. Although, I do find it quite attractive if the woman acts confident. I'm an introvert, but I think I'd be happy with any type of person: introvert; ambivert or extrovert.

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  • I believe having similarities with your SO is important since you can both have things you love, thus share your love for the said thing.

    The most important thing, I believe, is having a similar or equal thoughts, ideas, personalities. It makes it easy to understand each other.

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  • This is a really hard question, I want us to be similar in good stuff, in stuff I would want to see in a girl for example, but then I want her to have different hobbies, different jobs & stuff to do, and basically be different which causes them to be interesting.

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  • I like a woman who has enough in common with me so that we are compatible and different enough that we can surprise and illuminate eachother

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  • A little bit of both, we can have different tastes but we both must have respectful morals and basic maturity and mannerisms but everything else can be different.

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  • I would rather not think about it until I have something going on with him/her. If you put this as a basis for attraction you might miss someone who would've perfectly clicked with you regardless of similarities or dissimilarities.

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  • actually something like me something not: for example:
    I am a low tempered person so i want a girl who is not like me.
    I am a pet lover so I like to have a pet lover girl.
    and some things does not matter
    like what is her family status.

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  • Similar because I dont want to deal with too much shit and different just to keep things interesting, doesn't mean I am into any childish bullshit however when they differ else I just write them off proper

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  • Definitely different, I dont want to date myself. Its nice finding someone with qualities I don't have so that maybe we balance each other out in a way

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  • Can i vote both? Cuz even when u do same things one little thing that she dont like can be pain in the ass and dating girl who just like this little single shit is less, i would say inteligent not similar or diffrent just inteligent is enaugh

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  • Similar values, at least.

    Less things to go wrong that way.

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  • I would prefer different but, would like to have some things in common. We'd have different sets of strengths and weaknesses and, we could learn from each other and improve.

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  • Similarities in the big things, differences in the little things.

    Like I want to keep living in the city, not move outside in the middle of nowhere.

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  • Similar in outlook and values so we'll get along, but different in interests, skills, and knowledge so we can learn from each other and experience new things together.

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  • They have to have similar or the same values and morals besides principles as me. Personality wise, I prefer different. But their character has to have traits that are respectful and considerate. Very much similar to values and views. I'm mainly attracted to those who exhibit kindness, maturity, and is reliable besides honest, etc.

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  • Some of both but mostly different. I don't wanna date wanna date myself and have a yes man who knows the same things I know. I love my boyfriend cause we're opposite and give each other different views/perspectives and grew up completely different.

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  • Similar! I love myself and everything I stand for, and would get along very well with someone like myself. An independent and ambitious man who's not scared to express his emotions and inner thoughts. We would have interesting discussions and learn from each other.

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  • Honestly, I can't really say. Probably both. I'd like someone with a few similar interests as me such as music, but I want someone different too, that way our relation is not so boring.

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  • Are you talking about looks?
    I love men who look similar to me, like similar features but in a man (dark hair, tanned skin or a little light , darkish eyes , soft hair texture but not too straight , caucasian bone structure etc...).

    I don't care if his personnality is different, or if his culture is different, as long as it doesn't hinder us.

    But I want us to have similar views about life in general, and similar values.

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  • I prefer similarities in big values but all the rest I wanted different: ethnicity, nationality, culture, traditions, language, country...

    I find when 2 people are different it's more fun, much more to learn, to exchange, more things to enjoy, ...

    Personally, similarities are boring to me, I don't like typical life full of routine, living like an animal or a robot.

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  • you can live together with someone who is similar to you in things like interest, life goals, thinking. but some difference is important to stay interesting to each other - else it'd look like you're living with your copy

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  • I am a woman and I am attracted to men - this is enough difference for me right there since we are from different planets LOL. However, in everything else, I want someone who is similar to or compatible with me. This is why I use Self-Match app to check if the guy who is asking me out is actually compatible with me. I don't want to fall for a wrong guy anymore. Differences create conflicts. Conflicts make your attraction go away.

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  • I'd like my partner to be different to me, whether thats looks or personality wise. But our morals and values that form the foundation of who we are and how we perceive the world around us need to be somewhat aligned. For example, I think it would be cute if me and a future boyfriend/husband had different taste in music, or one of us is really crazy while the other is super calm & sensible. But both of us need to value the same morals such as kindness, humility, working hard etc.

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  • Similar, so thats hy my boyfriend and i are struggling every now and again. Moral wise we’re on the same page but not in terms of interests/hobbies

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  • I enjoy both, differences make things interesting, but similarities are essential in maintaining a good balance

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  • I feel like we would have more to talk about, we would agree more on what to do together, and not hate what each other picks. If you have a truck, like video games, and tattoos. We could do and talk about a lot.

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  • Our fundamental values and lifestyle must be similar for a relarionship to work long term. Everything else can be different or the same. That doesn't really matter to me

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  • Different. Different. Different. And luckily for me, I only attract people who differ from me a little or wildly.

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  • I don't know why but every guy i've ever intensely liked no matter what race, has an intense love for uh... getting elevated. for those who don't know big words, they're fucking faded.

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  • Similar, it's nice to have someone who shares your interests. It leads to less fights also, at least from my experience.

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  • a little different.. there would be a huge personality clash if I date someone like myself.. and it won't work out

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  • mostly similar but a bit of difference keeps the relationship interesting

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  • Their interests need to be similar, but other than that they can be either similar or different to me.

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