So I'm an average guy, not obese (maybe a slight muffin top, but honestly not much, I easily fit in a men's medium size shirt) but I'm not unusually skinny either. I'm certainly not shredded like many workout enthusiasts. So the main question is; how much do girls really care about a how much muscle definition a guy has? To make myself better boyfriend material, should I work on hitting up the gym more, or should I try to improve my personality and social skills? Like, which matters more for a guy to actually land a date: his physical attractiveness, or his charisma/personality?