Most Helpful Guy
As a man, I find that the average expectations placed on men, are about 10X higher than they should be.
As a man I am expected to:
Be a father
Be a lover
Be a friend
Be a rock in the storm
Be emotional (conflicting shit, right)
I have to be strong, but soft, loving but not clingy, caring but not too attached or worried. I am supposed to be in shape, but not make her feel bad when she puts on a bit of weight. I am expected to have a giant dong, or a little dong.
Half the shit women want from men ON AVERAGE, is just a bunch of contradictory nonsense.
To me, a man is this:
Loving. You cling to your lady because you care about her and her safety is paramount.
You are strong for her because she needs your solidarity.
You can cry. If your lady does not want her man to cry because its somehow not manly... Bye Felicia, I have feelings and emotions too.
He sticks around for his kids, or takes them when mommy is not being a good mommy.
A man can be a stay at home father. I was. My wife was a nice change of pace before she passed recently.
I mean, I am a great cook, very organised, and I loved taking care of her. Showering together, braiding her hair for her before she goes to work (her hair was about 3.5 feet long) and she loved all the compliments she would get from the different braids I would do.
honestly, thats a real man. Soft for his lady, or his family. But a god damned metal spiked wall to everybody else, to defend his lady or family.
Most Helpful Girl
Not really. I've met lots of shallow men and women. It honestly goes both ways. Just depends who u run into. Most of my life I've seen both. "Dude her personality sucks but her body is so hot". "Ugh he's so boring but he's so tall and hot!". XD just all kinds both genders.