What i mean when i say are you yourself is are you the real you? are you comfortable enough to completely relax and be the real you even if you feel like the person might not like it and could be potentially put off this early on?
Or do you think i've got to be myself and if they don't like me someone else will.
Most Helpful Guy
I'm about myself as I can be when I know that this is effectively an assessment of future dating potential.
So I prefer to remove stresses that would cause me to behave out of character. For instance, I would rather go out for coffee on the first date instead of a restaurant. The more expensive the date the more I feel the need to impress by spending which I really hate because I'm actually rather frugal.
If she appreciates a coffee date and isn't concerned about how much I'm spending then this generally leads to extending the date. If she's upset about it then she wasn't for me anyway.1
Most Helpful Girl
Yes i'm usually myself... not 100% but as much as i can.1