Or do you think i've got to be myself and if they don't like me someone else will.
Most Helpful Guy
I'm about myself as I can be when I know that this is effectively an assessment of future dating potential.
So I prefer to remove stresses that would cause me to behave out of character. For instance, I would rather go out for coffee on the first date instead of a restaurant. The more expensive the date the more I feel the need to impress by spending which I really hate because I'm actually rather frugal.
If she appreciates a coffee date and isn't concerned about how much I'm spending then this generally leads to extending the date. If she's upset about it then she wasn't for me anyway.1
Most Helpful Girl
A less cynical and sarcastic version of myself.
I'm usually pretty nervous on first dates (but nervousness is a part of who I am), so I won't be cracking my best jokes or enthralling you with the best conversation ever, but I'll be honest about my interests, background, perspective, opinion, etc.
I won't feign interest or agreement in something that I don't find interesting or agreeable.
I'll dress as nice as is appropriate for the occasion, but I won't pile on the make-up or spend hours doing my hair--I try to look as natural as I can on the first date so as not to disappoint down the road.1