Woah, hold on Jesus you don't need to preach. There's nothing sacred about this lol sure they will be hurt for a while but as adults you need to move on, not sit there and cry. That's what children do.
So if you try to contact the person doing the Ghosting,On you, not being told, then you can be arrested for Harressement. That is wrong.
It's not essential, you could have just told the guy you weren't interested, but you're an idiot.
@englisc I already told him I wasn't interested and he kept insisting on being friends. Keep assuming, smartass
Well then that's not really ghosting is it?
LOL!🤣Dude she a teen... chill. save the toasting for the one that are grown with no morals. Lol roast thoes slutty sluts🔥
I find it crazy how women in their late 20's don't feel the same and actually think it's a joke. smh it's kinda scary when u think about it..
People are just rude and gutless and have no respect or care for anyone but themselves these days. But then call poor me when it’s done to them!!!Treat others the way you want and expect to be treated!!
Yes I've been ghosted but then I moved on. I don't see anything wrong with, I thought it's common sense when a person stops replying to you, you get the message that they are not interested. I guess common sense isn't so common after all.
It’s called ‘common decency’ and clearly you have none for others or else you’d give them the respect of a conversation and then walk away!
Oh I have but then when I tried to end things, one guy called me a bitch and another guy threatened to commit suicide if I left him. I did leave him and he didn't do anything. Usually guys are persistent even when I end things and they get all defensive and curse me out. So why should I put up with their verbal abuse? I'd rather just ghost and never see them again.
You don’t have to. You just say what you need to, give your point of view, your reasons, feelings what not, and they HAVE to accept them, they have no choice but to, you have the right to move on, not to be interested for whatever reason you so choose. And you also have the right after telling them to de friend, block etc if you feel the need.But you had done the right thing first by telling them what you were doing and why! Giving it closure, and end, a full stop.Then they know 1000000% with no questions if buts or maybe you are not interested are not coming back and will not be in contact again. And not to hold out any hope etc.The door is fully closed.
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I have and its horrible. You love the person and fill your heart and your phone with memories of them. Then they just disappear, and block you, doing everything in their power to avoid you.
It tears you apart. You wonder why they're doing it. If you did something or if your whole relationship was a lie. What's so hard about just saying, "Its not working out" or "I need a break"?
@Bloodflows15 completely agreedI hate those who ghost people
Listen here sinner, there is NO necessary evil!Lol, messing a bit but seriously think about what you said. If it's evil, and you're right it is, do you really want to do it? To another person. To hurt them
@TrueCelt i don't want to, but i also don't want to explain why I'm not interested in a person or deal with that awkwardness. There's nothing more clear than ghosting. Intentions are obvious.
See that's sadly untrue. It's precisely the problem, it's actually UNCLEAR. You leave the question of maybe. There's no closure. THAT'S why you hurt them so badly. It's being ignored and hurt. Being ignored, when you care, LITERALLY activates exactly the same part of the brain as intense physical pain, the type most commonly associated with torture. So you are in fact torturing them if they care about you. Which a lot of people will. You're causing real pain and anguish and potentially mental illness, definitely harming mental health. It'll happen to you if you have kids and try to get back into dating. This is the thing, if you even believe slightly in karma, recognise that marriage is typically a 10 year spell in your life, you most likely will end up back trying to date as an older person, and it's going to suck. Show empathy now to dodge that shitty karma!
@TrueCelt it's clear to me that if soneone doesn't bother to talk to you, you are not a priority, they do not care about you.
Yeah. Of course. The problem isn't in a newly established relationship. It's in an already established one. The question "why", just gets louder and louder when you flip things completely without explanation or discussion. If you've been something to someone, you owe it to decency to let them know you've changed or what they should expect is changing. Otherwise you're guilty of hurting them. For the sake of an awkward conversation. I mean come on! You bleed every month and eventually, typically, push at least 1 football through a garden hose! You can DEFINITELY show some guts and TALK to someone!
The point you are missing though is that it isn’t about what you think, it’s about what they think. You aren’t the one being ghosted, so you know what is going on. Imagine that one day you come home from work and your roommate isn’t home. No surprise right? Well what about if she doesn’t come back for the rest of the week, month, year? You are GOING to have questions about why this person left your life.
Exactly. It's about the unanswered question. It hurts people to be lost like that, to have no understanding, it's very unsettling and de-stabilising
@winterfox10 I've been ghosted before. It didn't bother me. I'm talking about situations with new people. A roommate disappearing is something else.
@TrueCelt huh. Never bothered me that much.
Well because you didn't care about the person. That's the point. Now look you might genuinely suffer sociopathic tendencies, that would explain a lot of your difficulty in empathising with hurting someone. But if that's not the case, you owe it to yourself to be kinder and think about how you could hurt someone else really badly through your actions. Kindness invites kindness and you will feel better being a nicer person
@TrueCelt lmfao. Yeah, I'm a sociopath. You called it.
As I understand it ghosting can only happen between people that have some longer term or intimate relationship. I don’t think it’s just the act of not talking to the person... I could be wrong though.
Hey it's not something I'm talking ill of, people DO suffer from sociopathic tendencies (nobody is a sociopath every second of every minute of the day, labels are designed to hurt, I'm not doing that). I'd actually understand MORE, if you had that issue with understanding people, you'd have a really good reason for it.I'm taking it you're not, but then without some psychological testing, neither of us knows for sure, and understanding it and getting help and support is far more preferable than struggling on with it.I'll leave it alone because you seem insulted, not my purpose, genuinely have understanding and empathy for people with that issue. Without it, you're just very cruel. So that's probably worse to deal with, but that's the reality of your actions. You've been very cruel to people.
@TrueCelt cruel? That's a bit dramatic.
It's cruelty to act without care for another person, not caring for someone and being hurtful... look it's cruel. There's no other word for it. You're minimising because you don't want to accept it. I guess you've been hurt. Most people have. Maybe that's why you're so blasé about this. Or maybe you're selfish and you've never experienced anything like this and it's all ahead of you. In either case, cruel is the best word for causing pain without caring about it.
@TrueCelt i highly doubt i hurt anyone like that. It's not like i feigned interest one day and disappeared the next. You're projecting your particularly shitty experiences being ghosted on me.
I can't say I've ever been ghosted. My ex was a weed addict and she went to pieces on me. That sucked and hurt and felt similar to ghosting because she had zero emotional availability, so I can relate I feel. Look you do your own thing. You'll probably think about it at least a bit more next time, I'm not trying to change you, I'd just like you to think about it more. Best luck to you ✌
Hey girlie it’s fine if you don’t care a lot if people ghost on you, but as someone who has been ghosted on in the past too, I can tell ya it’s not always very clear. And the question of ”why?” does get pretty annoying if the dating seemed perfectly fine to you. I think ghosting is really awkward for the person you’re ghosting on, so the polite thing to do would be to shoot them a message and be like ”hey man, I’m not really feeling it anymore but thank you for your time”. You don’t have to specify how you actually feel and list all the things that went wrong, just letting them know that you’re done is enough.
Lumos. The light. Good job illuminating this, I agree with what you've said, well said 😊
I think thats retarded to admit. Have standards and dont follow the sheep in promoting emotionally abusive behaviour. That is ghosting surprise!
Ghosting is disrespectful. Period.You shouldn't be doing it even to a homeless guy in the street.Unless you have communication isdues and can't deal with your inner workings when you are talking seriously to someone.Ghosting simply means you are weak and cab't handle social relations properly. Ie: socially immature.
@JoeQnA I agree. I don't even know why it's a debate. I don't know about casual/online dating... But if you are in a serious relationship with someone. If you have stated you are boyfriend/girlfriend and are committed apart of the commitment is dealing with a breakup gracefully. That means, discussing the problems, having a sit down, talking about feelings or whether the relationship can be saved. If the person was abusive or a cheater, by all means, kick them to the curb. Ghosting robs the rejected party of all agency or the ability to add meaningful dialogue to the table. They don't know what they did wrong (if they ever did anything wrong at all). It's cowardly and an emotionally immature way of handling things. Ghosting as I said before speaks to the true nature of the person doing it. Are all ghosters evil? No, but if a person does it and thinks its acceptable they may have some nasty qualities to them that do not bode well for healthy relationships.
Ghosting is good it the other person is abusive, and never else.
@es20490446e Lmao I’m sorry but if you think a stranger on the internet that you casually chatted to for a week before they ghosted you is abusive, then I fear for your ability to function in the world because that is soooo fucking dramatic. 😂😂😂
Well, I mean people you know in real life. Nevertheless even if it's online I find it rude, just I cannot give it much importance.
you're clearly a princess. Wait till it happens to you enough to crack your concrete ego. It IS abusive and id never date a sociopath like that. Grow a pair and face problems instead if hiding and loling behind a phone. Real people exist behind it.
@sexymonkeybanana Buddy, give your balls a tug. I’m not a princess just because I don’t think ghosting a random person you met on the internet wasn’t a big deal. I’ve been ghosted by people, my life didn’t end. I didn’t get on the internet saying how abused I was and insulting people who disagreed with me. I grabbed my big girl panties and moved on with life lol. If that makes me a princess then I’m clearly a princess with more balls then half of the people who have bleeding heart syndrome in this thread. I’ve never been handed anything in my life, I had to leave home at a young age with no money because of familial neglect and alcoholism, so forgive me if maybe I don’t see ghosting as a big, painful tragedy. 👌🏻Besides, if you read my initial opinion, I said it’s not okay to do to people you care about or should. But someone random on the internet that you don’t know? Sure it’s not the best way to deal with things but it’s not the end of the world.RELAX.
@sexymonkeybanana you're calling her a sociopath over this? Dude you sound utterly ridiculous.
*With their own underlying reasons why...*this guy in tow...Damn auto correct!
Exactly. I've definitely done the mutual ghost before and that's fine because it's pretty clear neither person is interested. But if I had gone out with a guy, whether once or 10 times, and I decide I'm not interested, I'll at least have the courtesy to say "hey, sorry man I'm not feeling it. Best of luck to ya tho!" Either at the end of the last date or if/when he texted me next.
Everything you said is polite without being wishy-washy. I wish more folks followed your lead.
Wow. Thanks 😊