Point is, is it possible to find a girl just like me? A loving, caring, considerate and compassionate virgin girl who will love me as much as i love her, respect my insecurities and curate them instead of using them against me? Or are females naturally heartbreakers for nice guys?
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They aren't heartbreakers naturally. Socially girls are taught to like the bad guys, so its only partly their fault. Eventually they'll learn after experiencing bad guys or some are smart enough to know better.
Remove the title of nice guy from your vocab, girls see it as two things
A guy whose really nice and whatever but i have no attraction to (in fact that's why he's nice because guys i like hurt me)
A nice guy is cool but they're needy insecure or problematic to date.
All definitions of nice guys from my girlfriend and ex's.
I'm a nice guy and have been my whole life, so you can imagine hearing this both confused me and explained so much.
Gym, barbers, laundry; focus on these three things and women while become waaaay more drawn to you.
As for the personality traits that make you a "nice guy".
Don't be so readily available for just anyone, only for the type of girl/friends who do the same for you. Ideally (make sure she shows the effort first, it's a good indicator). Don't be like me, who after a string of heartaches being used to make others jealous or being stood up to learn this lesson.
Keep yourself busy doing the hobbies that you love. Don't have any hobbies? Explore and try new things, girls love guys who appear adventurous. You will most likely meet cool people doing these things and eventually your girlfriend who is also cool as shit.
Most of all do it all for you. Don't be needy bruh. Whether single or dating, if you aren't happy yourself you'll seek that from your partner, unconsciously or not, and that will put them off.1
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