I decided to respond in kind and see what happened.
Does he think he's so attractive that I should make all the effort? What is the point of this shit?
Always comment on something in their profile. That is the perfect opening to a convo.
I agree, a simple hello is a waste of time via text.
People choose to put in the least amount of effort with all sorts of stuff in their lives. This is definitely one of them. I wrote a mytake on this a while back check it out. These tips are just tips.. the point of the Take is "MAKE AN EFFORT"
I do that suit all the time. It's not because I think I'm hot and my looks will carry me. I just geninely don't know how to initiate a conversation.
Also, what's getting in the way of you talking to him? Why do you sit there and act like a trophy to be won, anyway? You think he's attractive. If that's tinder, you both swiped right. Talk to him.
if I were to ask "what would you expect them to say?" you'd probably draw a blank or come up with a vague answer like "something more thoughtful." But you can't really write a vague concept as a coherent message. You have to choose specific words to type out. That 'blank' you draw is the same blank they draw when figuring out what to type to you.
'Tis the peril of attempting to make conversation with a complete stranger..
OK let me get this straight: on a dating app someone actually contacted you first and you're complaining that they expect you to do all the work?
I'm currently using a couple of dating apps. I haven't once been contacted first. Of all those I've contacted, some I've written quite inventive introductions raising hopeful talking points etc, some I've just said hi, or complimented them and I've got back responses around 1 in 8 times. Usually it's a one word reply simply answering the question or saying thanks and I receive it maybe 2 to 3 hours after contacting them myself.
that guy is either lazy or busy. regardless, welcome to the club; i get that all the time from girls on tinder and elsewhere; not interested in putting in any conversation, just want to collect matches.
I don't think you've spoken long enough to determine who's "making. all the effort".. girls expect this like long personal message but, from. a guys perspective, when you do that 10 or.20 times and still get no response then it really becomes a waste of time. Now, if he's like super attractive then yea, he might not ever get to that point because he knows he doesn't need to. Funny how you responded to his "hey" simply because he's attractive. You should try that with every "passable" guy and then you might find that kind of effort you deserve
I sometimes answer like this. Usually after I've sent 6 well thought out messages and got nowhere.
If he's a pretty boy he's probably got someone he likes more and just keeping a little contact incase that falls through
because its a greeting it doesn't share or demand and personal information that might help you get to know someone better...
Well it's a start. But maybe he's shy. Ask a general question that isn't in his profile. Get the conversation started
Probably busy hooking up with younger and more attractive women. Water seeks its own level.
I don't care, a lot of girls on dating sites seem to though.
It’s a awkward situation, you’re going on limited information and mostly physical attraction.
I know I have a hard time just sending a message and saying “hey, you’re extreamely sexy. Would you like to get a coffee some time?”
It feels rushed, comes off as weird and doesn’t usually pan out.
Adversely you could make small talk for two months and never actually want to meet the person “in person”.
If you like someone, or what to get to know them, take a chance.
Send a few DM, and go from there, but throw out the offer to meet in person, public place like a coffee shop or for lunch. See where it goes.
No, you are interpreting too much out of it.
Come say hello to me
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