For instance if you want someone who isn't needy, well are you needy yourself? And if you don't follow your own standards, do you think it is fair to expect a potential partner to follow them when you don't?
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Standards are what you want in someone else correct? Your partner should have their own standards. If you don't fit then they probably won't be with you, and vice versa. So I really don't think it matters as long as they are what you are looking for and you are what they are looking for.