OK I've been going out with this girl for a month now, the dates are great and a lot of fun, we flirt/laugh a lot and I think she got a crush on me too, so everything is going well.
But she never text/phone's me on her own, I think she might not like texting since whenever I call her we barely can stop talking over the phone (1h+) and neither she nor I seem to want to hang up first. Still I always have to call her first.
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That's bad. She'll most likely lose some attraction and/or respect for you if she doesn't have to initiate a call or text sometimes. You shouldn't be the one doing ALL the calling. Here's what I suggest:
1) Stop calling her for a while. Like for a week, or a week and a half. Let her wonder what you're up to. This also lets her know that you're not the ONLY thing on her mind, that you have a life too. That's an attractive thing. If you make her feel a little uncomfortable with the silence, she'll hopefully (if she's into you, which it sounds like) make herself call and/or text you. At that point, you can just say you've been busy doing whatever (fill in the blank, it could be hanging out with friends, busy with school, etc.). Make your explanation quick and don't apologize. Then set up a quick date with her.
(NOTE: This isn't being "mean"--all you're doing is trying to achieve balance in the relationship while things are still good. It's really important that neither partner become "lazy" in a relationship, whether its 4 weeks, 4 months or 4 years old, because that's when things start to go south. Another option for you is, when you're with her, just make a quick, direct statement, no apologies, in a strong and respectful tone of voice: "Hey, I think you should call ME more often.")
2). In my opinion (and this is just my personal thought), the 1 hr+ on the phone isn't helping either. In general, I find that guys do better in dating when they keep phone calls short and be the first ones to hang up. The focus should be on relating to her in person more than by just "talking" on the phone. If I were you, I'd use the phone a little less for conversation and more for setting up dates. It also gives her more to think about and look forward to.)
Anyway, hope these suggestions help. You don't have to follow them exactly, but the idea is to keep an attractive sense of "mystery" about you, while still making sure that she respects you as a potential boyfriend. Best of luck.1