We been together for about 7 mos and I'm just not feeling it. He's so good to me and perfect but it's not there for me. I'm in love with someone else. I feel awful. I'm suppose to be hanging out with this other guy I've had feelings for forever this weekend and I need to break up with him because I don't want to cheat! I feel so guilty either way!!! Is it bad to do it over text? I don't want to hear his voice and put him in the spot over the phone or in person.
How do I break up with this guy?
What Guys Said 27
Doesn't matter how good he is to you. "Not feeling it" is a fine reason to break up. Just say "Look, I'm sorry but I've met someone else and I'm going to pursue it. Nothing you did wrong, I'm just not feeling it anymore. Good luck." Maybe I'm weird but I don't really see why this has to be done face-to-face.2
Have enough respect for him and yourself to do it in person. If you wanna be super kool, call or text a friend or family member of his to meet him immediately after you talk. That way you can scram and he's got a shoulder to cry on once you're gone. By the by, if you made a date with another chap before you broke up with him, that IS cheating. Or maybe that's just me.1
You need to break up in person. He will be sad and cry and whimper but he will find someone else. If you love him then you want the best for him and sometimes you may not be the best if you're in love with someone else1
The best thing to do is to explane how you feel say your sorry I'd didn't work out and hope you can be friends1
My girlfriend just left me I was also a keeper and a perfect boyfriend to her and she ignored me and finally dumped me 3 weeks later after I blew her phone up so just do it over text cause my ex left me weeks later and I was having all kinds of things running in my mind and it Emotional killed me and I wish she would have just told me from the start.. by the way why would u turn down a perfectly guy? And did u met someone else before him or during relationship?0
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Text dumping Is the newest low for someone to stoop down.. meet somewhere public, make it quick fast and to the point and go...1
Tell him in person or never date again. If you can't give him the respect of face to face then you are not a good person. Text breakup people deserve a special place in hell1
Tell him you need to move on1
Just think about what makes you happy1
Just do it asap and don't waste his time. Be fully honest and it'll be the best for both of you.1
Do NOT do it over text, that's super low. Tell him in person. And don't slowly ghost him out of the situation like my girlfriend did, straight up tell him in person.0
The grass isn't always greener on the other side.0
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Hey dude, leave him just tell him or introduce your frend to him and u can roll on.0
Do it in person but with someone else around. Otherwise he might beg or try to persuade you otherwise not point wasting his time or if you do it by text he will go into a depression probably0
Do it face to face in a public area it's not like he's going to kill you. Trust me he's going to appreciate it later on in life. I had girls do that over text or someone else telling them for me it pissed me off that she didn't told me sooner.1
What's even sadder? the fact that the new guy is no different to the old one, it's just your ego needing different food...1
What Girls Said 8
If you end it face-to-face I wouldn't do it in a public place. That's cruel. It'll be humiliating for him.
Personally, i'd rather someone tell me they were ending their relationship with me either over the phone or via text. I'd feel they'd wasted my time by arranging to meet up just to tell me it's over. That's pretty harsh.
After you tell him, he'll either walk away upset or sit on his own feeling emotional. It's best to be on your own to deal with the hurt of a breakup. He may not want you to see how hurt he is
Breaking up with someone over text is basically the cowards way out. No one ever wants to hurt someone who loves them, but after 7 months he deserves a face to face. Just curious though... what is it about this new guy that makes you think you'd have a better relationship with him? If you already have someone who treats you so well, why ruin that? I think the only reason you've lost those feelings is because you allowed a new man into your life. How well do you know this man? Does he know you already have a boyfriend? He may end up hurting you and you may end up regretting leaving someone who truly loves you behind.0
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Have a talk with him about it. It's difficult, and there may be a lot of drama ish feelings, but you must keep your cool. It's normal to live through breakups, seeing as it's near impossible to stay with one partner for a lifetime. Everyone appreciates it more to break up in person rather than through a text.0
In person is always best. Just explain that he's an amazing person, but you feel the relationship has run its course. Breakups are never easy, so it'll be emotional, but it needs to be done.0
Its better to do it in person , I've been through been that but it was online and I realised that I only enjoyed him better as a friend not like a boyfriend , we were together for about a few weeks , he wasn't mad, he said if that's what I want then so be it.0
Tell him. Shame on you for stringing him along... you need to be more decisive and assertive.0
It would be a good idea to talk to your boyfriend before this weekend, otherwise that would make the situation worse. Please don't break up with him over text. That is possibly the worst way to do it. You need to do it face to face as hard as it is. It's not going to be pretty but breaking up with him via text is just heartless1
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