I met him on a college trip that my boyfriend went on as well. He and I hit it off great! We had so much in common life-wise and personality-wise. My boyfriend noticed and got upset because he could tell that I liked him and he thinks the guy liked me too.
My boyfriend is quiet, this guy is outgoing.
My boyfriend doesn’t like crowds/people or going out and doing things, this guy is more adventurous and social.
My boyfriend doesn’t like games, he does.
My boyfriend is kinda tense and has anger issues, the other guy is super carefree and chill.
He was hilarious. He’s super attractive (my boyfriend is too though) and I can’t get him off my mind. He’s everything my boyfriend isn’t, and I didn’t realize until I met him that maybe my boyfriend and I aren’t well-suited for each other.
I’m not sure if that guy had/has feelings for me or not? But now he has a girlfriend. I ran into him tonight though and we talked some and he was so sweet! But it was super awkward. There was a lot of tension and I don’t know why.
Gosh. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to throw away a good thing that I have with my boyfriend, especially if the other guy has a girlfriend and might not even feel the same... But I feel bad that my boyfriend thinks things are fine now and I still can't get the other guy off my mind.
Most Helpful Guy
You´ve been with the same guy for 4 years. It´s about time you looked for a refreshment. What you´re going through is completely natural. Having a small crush is just nice and you do still realize that it´s nothing compared to what you feel for your boyfriend. Sometimes talking about this stuff to your guy will help. Usually crushes tend to develop in times or argument where your mind starts to look for things that are currently missing. The sad fact is that most couple break up after 3-4 years of dating because they aren´t committed to working this stuff out and start to realize what kind of person they are and what kind of a person compliments our personality the best.
Before you make any rash decisions, please take some time to really think why you feel something for this guy (on a deeper level) and if there´s a reason why you don´t want to have that with your boyfriend. I strongly advise you to talk to your guy nevertheless
Most Helpful Girl
Ask yourself if you want to throw away all these years just for a guy you just met, maybe he's not what he really seems like? What if he's just acting nice but in reality he's the complete opposite? You never know. If you truly love your boyfriend you wouldn't catch feelings for another guy therefore my advice would be to ask yourself, are you not trying to make an excuse to break up with him?