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I would like him to be gentle, yes, but have the capasity to be more brutal if necessary. Like, I want kids at some point, and if he seems like a push-over, I can't see myself able to trust him to discipline the children to good morals. But he also has to choose to be gentle most of the time out of good will and manners.
I am not usually this sure on anything, but I have a quite high standard on this specific matter.