After that he didn’t ask me out so I went ahead & msgd him to see if he’d want to hangout at one of the spots we spoke about before - he was up for it & we agreed to go the next day. Next day, I texted him about the place, he opened the message & never responded. Went MIA that day & never ended up seein him.
The next day, he messaged me like nothing ever happened, didn't apologise, & had small talk. The next day he messages again - also small talk. The convo ends & we stop talking for a week so I decided I’d give it one more shot & see if he’d join me for coffee one night, he said he couldn’t that night but asked me if I was free the next day we’ll do it. I told him that sounds good.
The next day comes, he talks to me & I respond. He opens my message & never responds back, goes MIA. I didn’t contact him after that. Last night (a week later) he msgs me & apologizes saying he wasn’t feeling well & wasn't in the mood to see anyone & is feeling better now. I didn't respond to his message.
I just didn't like that he didn't ask to hangout again/ask me out in those weeks we were talking - we were speaking all day everyday. I felt maybe I was putting in more effort than he was & even as friends, you shouldn't just flake. In every kind of relationship, both need to put in the same amount of effort if you care about the person. He could've just told me he wasn't feeling well/can't do this day & to do something another day - I'm not going to cry about. It hurt more that he just flaked & went silent
What are your thoughts about this?