Before I started liking her, I slept with one of the other girls in the office after a work function got out of hand. Complete idiot, let the alcohol get the better of me. I told the girl I slept with it was a mistake and that it shouldn't have happened, we both agreed and decided to keep it secret. Recently (after a few drinks) she let it slip to higher management that things were awkward between us after that night. She didn't say exactly what happened however the rumours begun.
The stickiness to this situation is all the girls at my office are very close. Lunch dates, social media socialising, etc. All similar to your typical highschool girl group behaviour I guess.
My concern is that if I were to ask the girl I like out, the story could eventually catch up to me and ruin everything especially in the early days. I have full intentions to be honest with her if she were to ask but for obvious reasons I'd rather not tell anyone what happened.
My gut is telling me to just ask her as it should all work out for the best but I keep getting roadblocks/ obstacles coming my way which are basically telling me to back away and avoid the situation.
My first question is this, how would you feel/ react if you were her.
A) if we go out and you later found out about the other girl and,
B) prior to me asking, you found out about what happened?
My second question is, should I ask her out or cut my loses?