I am scared I won't ever find a guy due to this?

I am a 19 year old girl. I try to be good to people as much as I can and am pretty good looking too (not to be immodest). I am not religious but have a belief that prevents me from having pre marital sex. My one friend told me that I will never find a guy if I don't have sex before marriage. Its just how I was bought up. Is it possible to date with this belief and actually find a nice guy?

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  • Yes you can find a guy, sure some may not be interested but then they where probably not interested in a long term relationship. That said with that mind set if you intend on putting off marriage until your almost 30 then yes, most men are not going to wait the better part of a decade to be intimate, however if you are willing to marry when you think the person is right for you (which should be two years tops) then yes you will find some one who respects that decisions. Now many are probably going to be religious, though that shouldn't be a huge issue as long as both of you are respectful about it.

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  • Keep that belief, never give it up!!! It means, you are not cheap, you are precious!!! Your hubby will you value you greatly if you keep your treasure for him!!! Don't believe anybody else, those just want to use you and throw you away! You will find the only one. I was 20 when I met my husband... I gave my virginity to him. He values it greatly.

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    • Are you religious

    • I wasn't when I met my husband... well I was always interested in God but my parents didn't raise me religious or anything. It just happened that I did not lose my virginity that I am grateful now. I become Christ follower when I met my husband, who is religious.

    • Thanks for the advice

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What Guys Said 32

  • Yes it´s possible, but it sure won´t be easy. Just be clear from the get go on what you believe in and even though it will repel 95% of the guys, those 5% will be worth it :) You will find someone I´m sure!

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  • Yes you can find someone but have you considered sexual comparability, its not one size fits all. Imagine you never have sex then marry and then find out you and your husband dont gel when it comes to the nasty.

    No one says go whore yaself out, find a solid relationship and have protected sex as often as you want with that person because you'll find out quick - one size doesn't fit all

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  • Waiting to have sex until both people are pretty close emotionally would be fine. But the marriage thing could be a problem these days since a lot of men are realizing they shouldn't get married and give someone legal power over them and their finances.

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  • Its possible but very rare. Your pretty young you'll know when its time BUT DONT let someones viewpoint define YOUR sexuality, your limiting yourself even more im sure you have an ideal type of man (hint attractive males have sex a lot bc they can get it ANYWHERE without trying) + expecting him to be the same is like tossing a needle in a haystack

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  • Hmmn, sounds tough. Not impossible, just tough. You'd have a better chance if you were religious and could join a dating site like https://www.christianmingle.com . You probably could still so long as you were tolerable towards others who are.

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  • I'd say expecting no sex before marriage is a pretty limiting factor. Guys who are open for that are super rare and no offense probably mostly are some religious fanatics xD

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  • My opinion may looks vulgar but it is the fact
    Suppose you already had a sex with a guy during college times and then the time will come you will have had to get married
    If you get married and if husband tries to have a sexual intercourse with you and doing that a guy can easily find whether you had a sex earlier or not (how? that needs a brief explaination so I will not).
    It will hurt your man and hence the relationship will be effected.

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  • yes it is possible, it is quite hard i imagine, because sex is a big part of almost all relationships these days. all you need to do is find a boyfriend who is willing to wait.

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  • You restrict your dating pool to guys who share your values, but I don't think that's going to keep you awake at night.

    It's not going to stop you finding somebody, though, no.

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  • I believe this is totally normal u dont have to rush things specially preserving yourself untill marriage is something really special in your community. . other communities this have be the normal thing you dont have sex before marriage

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  • If you find Someone who shares that mindset then yes you can but don't try to find Someone who those not share that point and expect them to change as most won't

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  • Listen to your friend. Get some experience cause guys don't want a girl who doesn't know how to please them.

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  • Who the hell are these friends of yours? Didn't know this whole pre-marital sex thing was common in India.
    That's not true, you'll find a guy

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  • I'm a guy, and not to beat around the bush, I have a high sex drive, I also don't believe in sex before marriage, and I also consider myself a nice guy. But I know if I met a woman, and things went well and I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her and she told me this, I'd respect it and wait. Finding someone you love and want to spend the rest of your life with should trump sex every time, if a guy is not willing to wait for you, then he wasn't worth it. So please keep your belief, too many people don't wait (myself included) you'll find a nice guy no problem :)

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  • It's true that it will be harder probably, but there are guys out there not to worry.

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  • Of course it is... guys aren't all like your friend implies

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  • Yes its possible anyone trying to convince you otherwise boyfriend or friend is just not right for you

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  • If a guy rejects you because you not wanting to have sex, there's something wrong with him, not with you.

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  • Yes its possible, thats why there is still children's church XD

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  • Yes, it is. You just have to search a little better.

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What Girls Said 4

  • Lots of women have done it and continue to do it.
    Some men will not bother with you for this reason whilst others will put you on a pedestal and want to date you.
    Its mostly attractive to a guy when a girl is sincere about what she wants in her life and how she intends to live it.
    I don't see it as a barrier.

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  • Totally possible. Granted, there will be some men that will not date you due to the fact that you won't have sex before marriage but if you are up front about that fact, you will indeed find a partner that is willing to wait.

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  • Don't worry. There is no reason that you can't find someone special.

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  • It's not impossible but it's hard to achieve

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