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You're wrong to expect them, yes. You're not wrong to desire them, however.
Here's the thing; guys are socialized show their appreciation in substantial ways, not in the little things. How does your wife know you love her? You support her. You protect her, make sure she's safe and warm and fed, even if you are none of these things. You give her a haven, and go out and bring home the bacon. THAT is how you show your love, with sacrifice.