"Unless he had a shot"? Uh, what? Yeah, that sounds real innocent. If you're in a relationship, you don't look at other women. You're not single.
That is unrealistic.. There is nothing wrong with looking the issue comes when the looking leads to a pursuit of the girl
No, it's not. What's unrealistic is the fact you think gawking or lusting at other women besides the one you chose to commit to is.
Tell me, why do you do it to begin with? You're girlfriend must not be all of that and a bag of chips for you to still be drooling over other women.
Checking out a woman and lusting and gawking are 2 different things.. Guys are going to check out other women it just happens
People look at things are judge and compare them to what they have does not mean they obsess over them and drool over them
Lust is always involved. It just happens because? Like I was telling Blondie, it just shows that the person you're with is just something you settled for because you can't get someone out of your league. If she/he was then you would only have eyes for them.
Oh my god, dude! Did you just admit you compare other women to your girlfriend? Woooow.
You seem very surprised by the fact that men check out other women and compare them to other women or the women they are with even though it is clearly what your boyfriend is doing
Suprised that MEN do this? No, its just men like you because I don't. I'm not gay. I do have a wife and children. Maybe its because I'm Christian. My wife doesn't do this either.
You don't sound very intelligent. You don't sound like you're mentally stable for any kind of relationship to be honest lol This is why so many relationships are so screwed up and just fail. You people think backwards.
woahhhhh okay guys chill lol. It's fine! I was genuinely just curious when I asked this question. I do have to agree with the fact that guys look at attractive girls no matter what relationship status they are in. Even we girls check strangers out sometimes! I believe that this is perfectly normal :)
Well then I feel sorry for you:) You and your little boyfriend obviously lack common sense and don't know exactly what commitment is.
@umleavemealone I am a Christian too, and the bible has taught us to love and treat everyone with respect, even those with different beliefs than ours. So I respect your opinion, and I believe that you could respect others' too :)
I'm sorry you feel that difference of opinion is an indication of someone's intelligence or lack thereof. You are free to disagree with someone and express that but attacking someone because you don't agree with them is childish.
The bible also says not to be a fool. Never, has it ever said to respect wrong doing :) You're not very Christian if you think this is normal.
@bad_man55 Well said!
Ohhh. "Childish". I'm sorry you're not man enough to handle an argument. But I can see why you look at other women. You're not very attractive, so I assume your partner isn't either. That makes sense. Otherwise it wouldn't be going on now would it? :)
Female simp agrees with you!
Don't ask questions you already have the answer to. You ask for opinions just to deny the ones you don't wanna hear so you feel better about it.
@umleavemealone LOL hahaha. I don't even know you and I could already tell the kind of person you are behind the screen- You probably disagrees with gay marriage, tend to degrade and bash people who don't share the same viewpoint as you, and like to start fights on the internet :) Well played, sir, well played
Lol a Christian who agrees with gay marriage? Yeah, you're no Christian. You're a jjoke why did you brother asking this question miss insecure?
You can go on and call me more names and insult me some more! :) I LOVE THIS. So entertaining lmaoo
Yea yea, I'm a terrible person, keep going
I'm not in an argument with you we have different views and opinions. I am still not sure why you feel the need to attempt to insult me. Your opinion of me means nothing to me just as I am sure mine means nothing to you
Well I would imagine a demon would love it lol I should throw some holy water on you. Maybe it'll sting you too lol
@Bad_Man55 I don't think he will ever get that. Let him hold on tightly to his snarky remarks, he is a classic example of an internet troll
If anything asker this is entertaining. And spot on assessment
It's not a personal opinion you have. You're putting all men in a group. You're insulting guys like me, so maybe you should reword your opinion.
Insecurity hurts, denial won't help :)
Laugh to cover the pain. Maybe one day you will wake from la la land.
"My boyfriend follows models on instagram. Should I be worried?" Sounds like a very insecure female YET she believes it's okay, bit she'll ask the world anyway. Why? Because she's unsure. Why so unsure? Oh, because it must not feel right, right? Doubt says a lot. Good luck!
Loooooool oh my god stop obsessing over me Looolololol Go talk to ur wife and hug her and give her all your attention instead of talking to another girl here on the internet!
Lol. nice comeback. Lame. You're just mad because I expose you for what you are.
Lol who sounds mad here? Mmm i wonder
She is welcome to ask for opinions on anything she wants there is nothing wrong with engaging in discussion over something other people may have or are dealing with. I am pretty sure that is the idea behind this site/app.
How about you stop obsessing over the fact that your boyfriend is hungry for something better looking? Grow up.
She's asking an opinion on something she already has a strong opinion on! Pointless to ask if you're already sure of yourself!
You're all sad. Sad excuse for humans.
You are kinda obessing over this girl @umleavemealone
*Pours holy water on self and let it "sting" quietly while laughing*
@Bad_Man55 Lol I KNOW RIGHT? that guy doesn't stop lmao
Yea there are no rules about how sure or unsure you have to be before asking a question
Did you find what you were looking for?
Yep! Thanks :)
I wasn't even looking for anything but I found something lol
Yeah, its no big deal. Just him showing how you're not his greatest find and he's still attracted to other women as if he's single. Just because he doesn't act on it doesn't make it "not cheating". Cheating comes in all different shapes.
@umleavemealone How is following models on Instagram showing she isn't his greatest find? Do you think people in relationships never find other people attracted outside their relationship? I have some really bad news if you do..
Why would you still be attracted to other people? Do you know what commitment is?
It just shows you're not the most beautiful woman to him. You give him the pass to do that, then I can only imagine what else he does without you knowing. You're not that attractive to him. He just settled for you is what it sounds like lol
@umleavemealone You have a very very very unhealthy, unrealistic perception of relationships.
You're no model. He can do better. Obviously. I guess a healthy relationship to you is for both of you to be lusting after other people. You're so smart!
@XRabbitHeartX I agree. I feel sad for him.
@umleavemealone I think she is very pretty and can totally pass as model! :)
Your insecurity is what you should feel sad for, my dear.
Sure. That's why her boyfriend doesn't appreciate all that :)
Actually you are the insecure one. Demanding your partner only find you attractive. Do you think a relationship is only based on looks? Secure people in relationships know what they have to offer, know their partner loves them and know their worth enough in a relationship to not make completely unrealistic demands. Good luck finding someone who only thinks you are hot. And fyi a relationship goes beyond looks and attraction but you probably won't know anything about relationships considering you live in fairytale land.
Who said demands? Don't out words in my mouth. I am married and I have kids, so don't assume. You're the one in fairytale land, thinking "he still loves me even though he's checking out the waitress while we're on a date <3" Please. People have lived like that for years at look where they are. The world will never be any better because you refuse to change your backwards thinking. Live your life as you see fit and see where it gets you.
@XRabbitHeartX Very well said! Couldn't agree more :)
@umleavemealone Backwards thinking? For accepting that yes, maybe my partner will find someone else other than me attractive? Surprised you have kids with your immaturity level. Kids having kids. THAT is what is wrong with society.
Yeah, you. Hopefully you don't have any. You'd be a terrible mother. Teaching your kids to accept that. You make me sick. You're giving me a headache. Can't seem to grasp common sense.
@umleavemealone I see. You are just a sad online bully. Waste of my time and energy. Good luck with your "wife and kids". We all know this is just a story. Nobody with a family and love will feel the need to insult or bully people on the internet.
I think you two have been focusing on the extreme parts of your disagreements. I bet you two have common ground on this topic.Here's my thought. I agree it's totally okay to find people attractive. Here are two facts most of us likely know though.1. Humans often cheat.2. Humans will often lie or stage information in a way that benefits themselves or their behavior.I agre with rabbit on points. I also think much lobbying from men on this topic had overtime collectively influenced women enough to rationalize against their logical instincts (what the asker has shown asking this question).Following pretty girls because they are pretty doesn't mean he will cheat. It also doesn't mean the point of him following them because of the basis of their looks doesn't mean cheating isn't what he'd want given the opportunity. That's were I think a lot of women have learned to rationalize away their fears. And I think that's the root of umleavings disgust.
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lol. wrong button
But like what the other comment has said, sometimes guys just like to look at beautiful women... right?
So do single guys, but they're single. While in a relationship it is totally wrong. Can't be justified. Sorry :/
I feel really sad for girls like you who think it's just a "guy" thing. Seems to me like you girls like to be treated like trash don't mind be second. You settle for less of a man.
i think you and me come from opposite schools of thought on this one. everyone (women included) should be honest about their attraction to people. even if they are in a relationship; the relationship is what determines the acceptability of interactions.if i love you and we have agreed not to fuck others, i will not fuck others. but to deny my attraction to people is dishonest to you and to me. and will lead to supression, frustration, poor communications and a likely split after a slip.
Not everyone is like you. Not everyone is attracted to others while in a relationship. Being honest about it doesn't make it right
Unlike people like yourself I only have eyes for the one I choose to commit to.
so are you telling me honestly that you have never spotted someone attractive while you were in a relationship? sounds like denial to me. it's not wrong to be attracted to someone, its wrong to fuck someone while in a relationship that stipulates "no fucking other people".
If you have interest or desire for other women then you are not committed or faithful to the girlfriend.
You can't tell me how I live or what I feel. I don't have any interest or desire for other women. If I did I would be agreeing with you. Why would I need to hide that if people seem to think it's fine and dandy?
How can I be attracted to more than one person while in a relationship?
There's a difference between love and lust and you can't love someone while lusting after others.
not what i asked. i asked have you ever thought someone was attractive when you were in a relationship. love is not for one person alone. loyalty comes from acting in someones best interests, not lying to yourself and them about your feelings.
and lust and love are not exlusive from each otjer
I said no and you said I was lying. "Love" when it comes to a relationship between and man and woman is only for them to share with each other.
How are you loyal if you are lusting after other women?
Looking at other women is what? What is it?
sorry for the delay, i had other stuff to do.i didn't say you were lying, i said you were in denial, and that lying to "yourself" and "your partner" about your feelings would only breed animosity. apologies if the second part is confusing, but i'm referring to any partners there, not yours.love is indeed the feelings shared between 2 people. but i can love my mother while i love my brother; love is not exclusive like you suggest. at least in my philosophy. besides, attraction and love are 2 different although often intertwined things. you can find a model attractive on instagram without loving your girlfriend any less. i think that kind of beleif just breeds fear and resentment in a relationship.
Denial is lying and then you just said lying again... I'm not talking about that kind of love. I'm talking about love between a couple...
But you being attracted to other women doesn't? You make no sense. First of all attraction is apart of lust when it's outside of your relationship. For you to even be attracted to other women says a lot about you.
You should Google the word attraction and maybe then you'll understand.
i think your understanding of the English language is getting in the way of discussion here.denial and lying have 2 different rationales/intents behind them. denial is more like unconciously lying where lying is actively/conciously lying. nobody can blame you for denial, but they can for choosing to lie.love is love. there is no point trying to split it into all the "appropriate" forms of a feeling. with a partner you have a mix of love, attraction, care, posession, wanting to be owned, jealousy, lust... you name it. its a melting pot of emotions that make a relationship.you can judge me all you want, only fair. but my being attracted to others is honest. it doesn't affect my loyalty to a relationship; if we have agreed to be monogamous, i will be moniogamous. it just means i am not lying to myself about what i feel.
Lol you lost your mind. Your logic, reason and idea of a relationship and your intentions are out of this world.
you know why i have bothered to have this conversation with you? because i used to think exactly like you do. give it time, i reckon you will see the problems with that way of thinking too.
There's a problem with me only having attraction to my spouse? Lmao you're a real piece of work.
And you were never like me, so don't even compare us.
You sound like a loser.
not satisfied with what you have.
its fine kid. bluster away, it doesn't change a thing. you don't know me, but i used to beleive everything you have been saying. almost word for word. "how can i say i love her if i find someone else attractive". "how can i say i love her if..." its poisonous and let to a lot of heartache because we were so busy trying to hide everything "unacceptable" we felt from each other.i hope you don't learn it the same way i did. but i do hope you learn it.
You don't know me either, child. It's not something to believe you weirdo, it's just normal and natural.I'm sorry, are you even married?
You can't love a woman or man (being vice versa) if you desire and have interest in other women/men. Common sense. Doesn't work like that. You still have a lot of growing up to do and still have much to learn.
Sad because you're 7 years older and are talking like an inexperienced teenage boy.
just because you don't understand my points yet doesn't make them untrue.i am not married. i don't need a piece of paper to ensure loyalty, nor to "prove my love". and given divorce rates its not exactly a credible solution to supposed disloyalty is it.by the way. tone down the attempts to insult me, they are meaningless since i don't know you enough to care. and they make you seem like a petulant child having a tantrum when you have no logical argument to make.
i'm gathering your understanding of love is based on religious definitions anyway, at which point there is no sense trying to explain alternative perspectives on... well anything. you are a closed book, basing your moral considerations off a book written by men hundreds of years ago. your basis is irrelevent and archaic.
@chris1984 there's no need to reply to that guy. You have probably realized that at this point, his response are composed of purely one-sided personal judgement and name-calling, while yours showed maturity and logical reasoning. He is an online bully, and I really appreciate you sharing your thoughts and opinions on this question. They have actually given me a clearer understanding of what a relationship really is as well. So thank you!!
thanks gaiarose, it's really cool to hear my explanation helped someone.i'm already aware of the kindof person he is; i hoped i could get him to see a little light from inside his closed box but it seems he isn't ready yet to think of anything outside of his doctrine. its become redundant to continue, thus my last comment to him. but again, thank you for your positive feedback, i really appreciate it 😊
I'm a closed book yet you wanna say I'm all wrong and your all right because of your own personal views. Wow. I can already see most of you who have these views are atheist liberals who base their beliefs off literally nothing. You make up your own meanings and rules and have nothing to back it up but your own hogwash.
You both sound ridiculous.
You wanna say the bible is made up because men wrote it? Well I guess history is too. How else do you think people were to record history back then? You're out of this world.