Girls who are looking for drama/chaos are insecure and don't have much excitement in their lives. Those are the type of women who tend to cheat and steal their best friend's boyfriends. But, not all girls are like that.
"and don't have much excitement in their lives" that's what every relationship ultimately comes to sooner or later. that's the thing.
Girls who don't have much excitement in their lives are insecure/depressed/insatiable (are not fully satisfied with anything). But, like I said, not every girl is like that.
every girl has that urge to get excitement, to see if they could have the risky guy, cause they feel so secure around the guy they have. some girls manage to ignore it and some even ditch the safe guy for that. but the point is that all girls have that desire "at some point".
Not every girl does. I had an ex I broke up with because he was too much of a risk-taker. He broke all the rules and I didn't like that. There's a difference between wanting normal excitement as in wanting to travel the world, going on rollercoasters, working on a major project together, etc. versus wanting toxic excitement as in wanting to cheat, have threesomes, swinging, etc...
you don't feel that urge now, cause the situation you are in now doesn't allow for it. but it is a very normal human emotion that everybody will feel given the needed circumstances.if you were with your partner and you've been with him for lets say 10 years. it gets a little boring and you are so used to each other. at some point you will long for more excitement. or drama. it's not a phenomenon that is visbile from the narrow perspective you have right now. yeah not everybody will get problems with it, cause it's actually a little more complicated than this but that's outside of the scope of this discussion xD fact is that every girl has this. it doesn't mean that they can't be totally fine with a guy for quite some time or even forever.
Just because several people get bored and feel the urge to cheat, have threesomes, even break up, doesn't mean every one will. You haven't mentioned if you were in a long-term relationship or marriage, but if you were and felt a lack of excitement, you just simply were with the wrong girl. I know plenty of couples who have been together for 30+ years and they have not once cheated on each other and are still in love. My grandparents are living proof of this. If a couple gets bored in the relationship it's because the love faded away or needs are not being fulfilled.In this case, I'm inquiring about guys who spoil their women and if this behavior directly causes boredom. I can say that I am happier than ever before with my boyfriend whom I'm in love with and who goes above and beyond for me.
i said before that this may not cause any latent issues. but it is a stronger or less strong feeling that everybody has at some point. if they act on it or not is a different story.i don't think it's sensible to try and push the blame to one gender or look for examples where there was no obvious sign of it... we all know how it is so we all have to work on the issue.humans are just litterally not made to be happy all the time. we need ups and downs in our lives and if we don't have them, we actively look for them. that's how humans work.
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I agree that there are girls who will take advantage of a nice guy and take it as a sign of weakness, but not all girls are like that. I actually value and respect my boyfriend, and am lucky to have him in my life. My exes were assholes and now I feel alive again after finding something I had been searching for my whole life.
I love my boyfriend and he gives me all the excitement I need. We do all sorts of things together and I enjoy every minute of it. Meanwhile, I was bored and depressed when I was with my ex who didn't seem to care much about me and didn't make me feel special at all.
Great! The excitement definitely needs to come from somewhere, and it's better that your excitement comes from things you do with him than the actual relationship itself.
I get spoiled by my boyfriend and am happy to wake up next to him everyday. Maybe it's because all my exes were assholes? Either way, I think that some women value it while some women take advantage of it because they are attracted to the so-called "bad boys".
People are not rational beings. While the theory is, be nice to someone and they will be nice to you, maybe they will and maybe they won't. My wife-ex was one who took advantage of my good nature. The more she took the harder I tried to give until I just gave up.Recovery phase has started but I'm still waiting for progress
It's because guys are always complaining about girls not wanting nice guys.
I suppose it's true for some, but not for others.
Not all girls take advantage of a guy like that. I respect and value my boyfriend for being a nice guy and not an asshole.
I am not. Gold diggers wouldn't care if a guy is an asshole as long as he is spending money on her.
How? My boyfriend and I are happy and in love. Please elaborate?
Don't get it.
I mean these relationships are very unhealthy, this happiness won't last I assure you
I get the feeling that you’re just bitter because some girl whom you were nice to got bored with you, am I right? Not every girl is like that. If that was the case, she probably never loved you to begin with. I can assure you that. No girl wants to date a guy who treats her like shit and doesn’t show her how much he values her. Especially if she has dated guys who turned out to be assholes.
My ex was abusive towards me and never spoiled me or bought me a single gift. Now I’m happier than ever before for finding something I’ve been missing my whole life. You’ll never understand how grateful and happy I am since you haven’t been in my shoes. Trust me.