Why is dating tough?

Every guy that I've connected with so far turned out to be a dick. I feel like I'm expected to be perfect when I just want to be myself. I'm afraid of being vulnerable cause any guy can just take advantage of that. Guys always want to rush when I want to take it slow and when I take it slow, they immediately get turned off. I don't even know how to date. There are awkward silences everywhere. Dating is awful. I don't know if I'm the problem or dating is the problem.

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  • This is pretty vague. Im not sure if you're more frustrated at your dates or the chemistry you've been having with the guys you've been with so far.

    Before i answer, please understand im answering with as much understanding as i can with the info you've provided.

    How many dates have you been on?
    What are the expectations you have on dates?
    What do you want the result to be when you are dating ( hook up, relationship ) ?

    I think you're attracted to men that appear one way, but internally are dicks.

    You like, dicks.

    I feel confused when you mention you're expected to be perfect, but you just want to be yourself...
    Whats more perfect than being yourself?

    Moving forward, you're absolutely terrified of opening up, you have layers of insecurities and walls that hinders deeper connections such as sexual relation or bond building. To address this you want to move slowly, what is slow? What's fast?

    Is moving too fast for you, slow for them? Is your slow, them going nowhere?

    I think the problem here is that you've yet to experience the bliss of attraction and friendship in the opposite sex. Finding valuable reason for their being in your life before contributing to your actual life.

    I dont want you to be scared, ms. anonymous.

    Love is a beautiful thing we all experience at one point or another.

    I want to encourage you to find the closest friend you have, same sex or opposite and ask them ," to go out with you " and tell them its like a date.

    It doesn't have to be your friend either. Your mom, dad, brother.

    Dates are designated time spent with a person significant to with the purpose of having a good time.

    Thats my piece,
    Laterz

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  • @kfin13 and @ImMafkFreeze are completely right... Try to look at other places for people (or maybe it's the "type" of guy that you're into that tend to be like this)... But don't give up of your standards and what you look in a relationship because it might hurt you in the long term

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  • date someone older, outside of your comfort zone. I think guys around your age are in that phase and there isn't much you can do about it. most decent guys your age are more reserved and quiet so finding them is tough.

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  • Is silence good sometimes? What do you mean by awkward silences? Maybe you are looking in the wrong places?

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  • Don't be sad!
    It's just that it takes time to find nice people... you will find a nice guy someday😊

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  • Don't settle for anyone. EVER. yoy know your worth and what you deserve. Don't lose sight of that.

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  • all men are dick. some of them succeed to hide it better

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  • Find guys that are your type

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