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This is pretty vague. Im not sure if you're more frustrated at your dates or the chemistry you've been having with the guys you've been with so far.
Before i answer, please understand im answering with as much understanding as i can with the info you've provided.
How many dates have you been on?
What are the expectations you have on dates?
What do you want the result to be when you are dating ( hook up, relationship ) ?
I think you're attracted to men that appear one way, but internally are dicks.
You like, dicks.
I feel confused when you mention you're expected to be perfect, but you just want to be yourself...
Whats more perfect than being yourself?
Moving forward, you're absolutely terrified of opening up, you have layers of insecurities and walls that hinders deeper connections such as sexual relation or bond building. To address this you want to move slowly, what is slow? What's fast?
Is moving too fast for you, slow for them? Is your slow, them going nowhere?
I think the problem here is that you've yet to experience the bliss of attraction and friendship in the opposite sex. Finding valuable reason for their being in your life before contributing to your actual life.
I dont want you to be scared, ms. anonymous.
Love is a beautiful thing we all experience at one point or another.
I want to encourage you to find the closest friend you have, same sex or opposite and ask them ," to go out with you " and tell them its like a date.
It doesn't have to be your friend either. Your mom, dad, brother.
Dates are designated time spent with a person significant to with the purpose of having a good time.
Thats my piece,