Most Helpful Guy
Like the other guys said, most guys want a woman who is ambitious to do her own thing and be productive in life. Sound like maybe you had a controlling dad and traditional stay at home mother. While being single does give you full freedom to do whatever you want, it can also be a very lonely way to do it.
Most Helpful Girl
If you meet a guy who don't allow you to pursue your dreams, you are meeting the wrong kind of guy. The right guy should be able to support you in whatever you want to do, and not prevent you from chasing your dreams. So while your mindset is definitely understandable, but it is also incorrect. Also, I love being single.