Most Helpful Girl
I genuinely don’t get it either, how the majority of men say that it doesn’t matter. It’s just not realistic or conducive for a long term relationship, unless he’s willing to financially support her right from the get go (and then you have a woman of lower intelligence to not have any financial value should she find herself without a man) which seems ridiculous because who wants to do that with someone they barely know?
I think that particularly here it comes down to a lack of experience, with many having not been in the position to select a woman for a long term relationship where this would actually be a reality1
Most Helpful Guy
You know, it's just more complicated than that. I used to think it was really important and my family certainly thinks so as well, but after my divorce it just doesn't matter as much to me. I do pretty well and I married a woman who has a Ph. D. in biomolecular engineering. She works as a senior scientist at a biotech doing blah blah blah and made about $105k/year in the year of our divorce. There were many problems but the major one? I couldn't get her to stop spending. The year of our divorce, we made a combined $410k and there were months where we lived paycheck to paycheck. I couldn't get her to understand until I gave her divorce papers and that triggered a rage in her that I was completely unprepared for.
But here's the thing -- I feel I had had no way of knowing this was going to happen. I was with her when she was a poor graduate student at UCLA living off her stipend. On the flip side, a few weeks ago I spent some time with this very poor girl that I met off of a dating site. The first time I picked her up (from her ratty trailer no less), after driving for a while she asked if I could buy her a strawberry smoothie from McDonalds. The thing is, she asked it in such a polite, un-entitled way that it almost sounded like a foreign language to me.
So when you talk about a woman's "financial situation", it's not as easy as you make it sound. I think I'm ok with poor, but I'm not ok with an uncontrolled spender. You talk about the nurse you married, but I feel that there's no guarantee that as her career (and salary) develops, the woman doesn't become the design label whore that you sought to avoid. I get what you're saying (I REALLY DO), but experience has yet to convince me that a poor girl has more financial downside than an educated one with a solid career.0