Is he emotionally unavailable or just not into me?

[AwakeAgain]

I have been chatting to this guy on an online dating app for about a week. He has asked me to meet up with him next week, however, I feel like he has been a bit vague about it. I feel a bit uncomfortable as well because he has asked me to go on a trip with him 3 times already in which I have declined them ( we have never met in real life before) So after asking me to " hang out " with him next week, he hasn't set a date, time or place. It's been 3 days and I'm the type who plans my week ahead so I asked him in a light hearted way for an update. He responded straight away, proposing 2 different days. I picked one and a time. He agreed but then didn't propose a place for our supposedly first date next Thursday. I feel like I'm doing the work for him. Not sure if he's not actually into me or that he is terrible at planning. I'm 26 and he's 32. Also, he's mentioned that he works a lot. Any input will be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

Emotionally unavailable

Vote A

Not into me

Vote B

Too early to tell

Vote C

Neither - I'm expecting too much from him

Vote D

Updates:

[OlderAndWiser]

The fact that he has asked you to go away on a trip with him before you have met the first time very strongly suggests to me that he is socially inept. I suspect that he has very little experience in relationships and has probably built this u p in his head into something much bigger than it actually is. If my theory is correct, he may be very grateful and devoted if you become a couple but he will need some "training" and that may be more than you are willing to do.

[Surbhit]

You should go and meet him. But, on your terms. Pick a place of your choice where you feel comfortable and safe. Don't think or expect much out of him. Best of luck to you. I hope you find what you're looking for.

[Wonder89]

I’d pull away a bit and leave it to him. If he doesn’t step up and make an effort. Move on

[CrazyFreckledGinger]

I feel like he thinks this is rushed so he wants to take it slow!

[LegateLanius]

He probably is socially inept and the turning down three times certainly didn't help him. He probably thinks this is more serious than you do and is nervous that you won't like him.

[intjgamer]

He is beating around the bush way too much. Do not take this guy seriously.

[lostliam34]

A lot of guys dont like planning. They prefer to leave it to the girl so they know for certain she is having fun.

[knowbetternow1960]

Be careful. I wouldn’t meet him anywhere but a very public place until you got to know him. Make him do the work, sounds like he’s playing you

[Nickels01]

At least he could have suggested two places so that you can think about it. Ask him where

[sidvt]

Hehe guys r poor at planning so girls do it its common so try him

[Anonymous]

Too early to tell