Touche! I like the ice cooler analogy! Very on point.
Is online dating a bad way going about finding a partner?
What is your goal with a partner? FWB? ONS? Casual dating without commitment? Serious relationship?
@dsg11694 I for one have not had any success with online dating. However, it's either at least somewhat successful or a lot of people keeping pouring money into it for the chance it will be successful for them.Because if it weren't at least somewhat successful, online dating would have faded out years ago. Although, I think it also depends where you live. People where I live are so different from me, that I have very little success at any type of dating.
@MScifiwriter Apparently, young people are successful at finding hook ups on sites like Tinder. Many people in their 30's and older are successful in finding LTR partners on sites like PlentyOfFish, Match, eHarmony, etc. I suspect that people in urban and suburban areas are more successful with online dating than people in rural areas.
Preferably something long term I guess
Where have you met the guys you have previously dated?
That’s the thing. I’ve never really been in a relationship. Most of the guys I met have been online. Either from POF, OKC or FB
I have met many women on POF. What is the problem that you have meeting guys through POF or OKC?
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Lol 😂 I would like to see the Quality of women you are getting with this approach. I think a woman with a good self-esteem, has her life together etc will appreciate a man who puts in a little effect. And I certainly don’t think she would allow herself to be used as a friends with benefits.
Swear every long term relationship I"ve been in it started off easy going. When I was chivalrous I got friend zoned or ghosted. Cynical I know. I would love to do right and be old fashioned. But it just doesn't work that way sadly.
Ohhh. That’s sad. Hugs to you! 🤗
@Poppykate She isn't being 'used' if she also wants a friends with benefits
Lack of opportunities? There's no shortage of people out there! But you need to go meet them. It may take 100 or 500 approaches even before one becomes your bf/gf but at least you've made the effort, met some cool people, had some funny interactions, and become socially confident and funny etc. Attraction isn't a fluke; it isn't luck. But if you don't go out and practice you don't get better at learning to attract people.But yes I'd avoid online dating people are on those sites for many reasons; it's usually only the duds with no social skills that are on them for serious dating.
@MusicMayhem lack of opportunities as in ways to meet women. I live in the suburbs of Chicago and aside from going to bars, there aren’t many ways to meet women. I mean I wouldn’t say I’m shy or afraid of rejection but I can’t realy approach a girl if I have nothing to say to her. Generally the women jive met in person were through friends or they approached me first. I wouldn’t say online dating is only duds, even though there’s plenty of them on there. It’s become more popular than ever.
You can meet women walking down the street! That's what I do mostly there's an endless supply of them.I don't have anything special to say to them. It's not the words that count but how you say them, your body language etc. Heck, you can talk about not having anything to talk about if you want. Just make it fun and flirty and get them laughing, then you can get their number and set up a date.
I would avoid relationships through work. Personal experience
@Dyedhalo1 yeah, I wouldn't either, part time jobs are still ok though, depending on age
If you're ok with losing the job
Because you can easily find a partner
Can we? Can we really?
Yes. Make an account on tinder and see
upload.wikimedia.org/.../...rotesque_old_woman.jpgSo someone like this can just walk out and pick up loads of men?
Also this is for a relationship. Not just for some desperate dude to fuck her in the dark
@GetFragged I owe you an apology. I recently made a tinder account for the ugly Dutches and I’m already loaded with matches.
Ummm... Some women out there are single and not at fault for being single.
Well, technically, you could be in a relationship and still be looking for another lol.
Thats what women who don't get approached tell themselves to feel better about themselves rather than taking action to meet people or improving their dud personalities.
For some, ofc it is BS they tell themselves.But it really can be a thing for both sexes.
Explain pls :)