I'm anxious to get this relationship started, what do I do?

I'm ready to have the "where is this relationship going talk" with this guy I've been seeing for the last two months, only I'm a little nervous to.

For one, I'm hella anxious about having the talk to begin with -- I know, worst case scenario he says no and it's over. But I'm also worried about the timing, and worried about looking desperate or clingy to initiate wanting something serious.

I remember after our first date, we hooked up, and agreed to meet later on the weekend. But the day of our next encounter came and I said to him "listen, I'm not down with a hook up type relationship so if that's what you're after than I'll say good bye", he replied saying that wasn't what he wanted either. So we've been seeing each other since.

Still, I can't actually tell how much this guy is in to me. I assume if a guy wanted a relationship with someone it would be more obvious. I mean we do talk (almost) daily, and see each other quite often. But I've also kind of lived with with "Guys are supposed to initiate dating, relationships etc." and girls are often seen as clingy/desperate when they initiate anything. So a bit of that is holding me back too. I also worry that maybe it's too soon to even have this chat, I mean we met on tinder so we didn't know each other prior to meeting.

So yah, that's my new dilemma, I'm sure it's quite common, but here we are.

Thank you!

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Most Helpful Guy

  • in my opinion definitely talk about it again to him just be open, I know for me it shows your interested and want something serious he's probably thinking about the same thing, I don't believe in the guy has to always make the move. I know for myself nowadays I don't want to waste my time with people that lead me on

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Most Helpful Girl

  • If you want to, then you should ask. Thinking back to my own and friends past experiences, by 2 months, or even before, both of us knew if we wanted to actually aim for something more or just leave it. Didn't always discuss it though, just a silent expectation between us that we aren't dating anybody else or looking.

    Girls aren't always seen as clingy for initiating. Especially if the guy wants similar things himself. Don't let things like that hold you back, especially if you're that kind of person naturally, because you could miss out on things and also if it's how you are naturally, then the right guy will appreciate that about you.

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    • I'm worried that two months into dating might be too soon -- but I mean, if we aren't declaring us as a couple, is it reasonable to ask if they've been seeing anyone else?

    • I think so, especially if there's anything sexual going on. I think it's actually quite important because it helps you to know how best to take care of your sexual health with this person.

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What Guys Said 2

  • Just 2 months? Give some time and see how it works.

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  • Just be honest and if he really cares he will understand

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What Girls Said 4

  • Give it time. Just go slow, and everything will fall into place :)

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  • Too soon! Wait till like another month or something.

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  • Keep your expectations low.

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  • If you're anxious perhaps he's not right for you

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