The simple answer to your last question is I want the full package. Money alone isn't going to make me happy. I want time and attention as well. I hope this clarifies any confusion.
Is it bad that I actually want a guy to spoil me like this? All of my exes were broke and cheap, meanwhile all my friends have boyfriends who do the types of things you do for your female friend. I feel as if I've been missing out my whole life.
It's not the money; it's the thought. Where I live, a guy can buy a dozen roses for $15-20 at the grocery store and bring them home to his honey. He can leave her a note o the mirror that says "I love you" or "can't wait to see you again." You need guys who are ore serious about finding a LTR.
Will people accuse me of being a gold digger simply because I want a guy to shower me with gifts and take me out to fancy restaurants or even a vacation? (things my exes never did).Note, I wouldn't date a man for money alone. But, I think that money is extremely important in a relationship and being spoiled and shown that I am valued is extremely important to me.
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It's just the traditional thing to do. If dating a "Ms. Independent" is something you want, there are plenty of chicks like that out there. However, being spoiled and having money spent on me is my ideal type of relationship. Most people are traditional. Many of my friends have boyfriends/husbands who spend lavishly on them, so why can't I want the same thing? It may sound harsh, but it's reality.
If you want a good-quality girl, you better hope she's a modern, feminist type chick, otherwise be ready to spend money on her because if you won't, there are plenty of guys out there who will.
Women are more attracted to men who are good providers, good protectors, have strong leadership skills, etc. so that it increases our chances of survival. On the other hand, men are more attracted to the most fertile-looking women (women with big breasts, nice facial features, fat butt, etc.) so that human can keep reproducing. So money doesn't really matter to men as much as it does to women. It's evoltionary biology.
And just like there are plenty of men who are gullible and desperate enough to buy a girl's affections, there are also plenty of women who are respectable enough not to sell their affections. (Unless, of course, they're escorts, which at least that's honest.)
It’s not buying a girl’s affection sweetie. It’s showing her that he’s not cheap and that he values her more than his money.
Lots of these “respectable” girls deep down wish men could spend money on them. They just decide to settle for guys like you who won’t because they have a low self-esteem and don’t think they can do any better.
Believe it or not, men are not required to give you all of their money in order to show that they value you. Your way of thinking just shows that YOU value money more than a man's genuine affection. And you seem to have misunderstood me, there's nothing wrong with spending money on the person you love. It's the constantly showering them with riches and spoiling them that I have a problem with, it's unfair and it's unhealthy for all involved. You want a guy to spend all of his hard-earned money on you and to treat you like a little princess, but you have nothing to offer in return. Or is your love worth more than a man's love? Spoiler alert, it's not.I'm sorry, but it just sounds to me like you're not looking for a partner, you're looking for a father. In which case, I wish you the best of luck in all your future endeavors and I hope you finally get that pony.
Not all girls who want to be spoiled are golddiggers. To be honest, every girl wishes she had a guy like I just described. Obviously, they won't admit that to you to not hurt your feelings, but it's the reality. I'm just wondering if it happens as often as people make it out to be.
By the way, the dictionary definition of a gold digger is to date a man solely for money. I wouldn't date a drug dealer or an asshole even if he did all of these things for me.
It happens very often, but only when the guy is a sugar daddy or extremely rich and blind in it.Or when the woman is worth splurging over which is the minority of cases.
What exactly is your idea of a woman worth spending money on?
Is it bad that I actually want my boyfriend to do this?
Well the problem that arose because of this is I spent too much time with her and it pushed her away. So be careful of what you wish for.
are you being serious or sarcastic?
Serious. If I could afford it. Shower that bitch in your love and make her happy. A girl who's happy with me is my favorite. Feed off her happiness
Sugar daddies only want sex though. I'm talking about a guy who is in love with his girlfriend.
You actually think guys want more from a woman than sex? Fascinating...