I have told him everything but I don't think he's doing the same
Then he is ashamed of his sexual past or his sexual status. He doesn't want to tell you because he fears you would breakup with them. To be honest, I would be that close to doing so if somebody wasn't going to be truthful with me. Especially when their views about sex are not my views. But you definitely need to prepare to stop putting in emotional investment until he be straight with you. You don't need this only for you to waste a year with somebody whose completely dishonest with you. That's why you talk about this mess long ago and not wait to avoid unneccessary breakups.
Its not about sex
I don't really care who he had sex with that was the past But there's this particular young lady the first time I asked he said they were just friends then there was this incident where she started talking at him in public asking things like why don't he love her anymore and once again he said they were just friends and she's going crazy but now she keeps on messaging and calling him and I just believe there's something he's not telling me
So what is the issue in general? If they never had a sexual relationship, and it's not something to really be concerned about, then leave it in the past. She sounds like a desperate chick who obviously had some type of relationship with him that could have went borderline sexually. And sex should concern you. Because you don't want to become one with a person who holds that kind of baggage. She obviously had a sexual relationship with him, and now she can't let go. When you have sex you become one with that person. Depending on where sex took place, you become their spouse. Mainly illegally through spiritual matters. This girl may have been somebody who lost her virginity to him. Which means she is bound to him for life, and now he's avoiding her and the consequences of his actions.
Her virginity or not He has a girlfriend he has told her this several times.And its not like she's a stable chick she's a pass along she have been with several boys in the area I just don't get why he has to lie or hold something back as we talked about much more awkward stuff than that
Then why are you dating such a person? This is something you should have thought about. It doesn't mateer if your together or not, until or unless your mrried it's all fair game. there's no rules where she has to step off. You don't own each other or have that authority to say so. He got involved with her, he has to deal with the problem. But as long as your dating him, you will have to deal with it as well or move on. That's all I can tell you.
Well you see he mentioned that one of his exes texted him but the first time we talked about her he said they were just friends.. I'm confused he's scaring me
I see. How long were they together and do you know what the text said? Was it a Merry Christmas text or something else?
It was several messages saying hi and finding out random stuff it was almost like a friend zone but then she started being weird like he started throwing herself at him
He says they weren't together while she says they were
And I'm thinking that he's hiding something
I see. How did you come to find out about the messages? Perhaps he is embarrassed by her and actually dating her. Have you asked him if he would block her?
Thanks that makes sense
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So what do you suggest I do? I feel like I'm being lied to
Tell him how you feel directly and see how he responds to it.
The bigger question is what should I do?
As in go straight and ask? But what if I reveal stuff that I don't really wanna know?
you deal with it