This Christmas he couldn't get me a present which i didn't care. Tho I bought him a 50 dollar gift. Its our first Christmas I'm just happy to be with him & his family. When I left he told me he wanted me to keep bothering him cuz he has been unattentive towards me
Which I did but he wasn't really responsive. He then texted me saying he was a terrible boyfriend. I told him he wasn't, he is just depressed & trying to work. When we r together he gives me lots of affection. I don't think he listening tho. He has been in horrible relationships. One according to his family his ex finacee cheated on him constantly with men & women 4 like 10 years. It was a on & off relationship. His family hated her.
I think there is more but his grandma said he should tell me. I just don't know how to heal a broken heart. there's damage that she has placed there. I just want to heal him.
Most Helpful Guy
I find most people who have low self esteem almost seem to enjoy hating themselves. They say fatalistic nonsense such as they were "destined" to be alone and they are "unworthy" of love and affection.
He needs to find the will to persevere within himself and press on regardless of what anyone thinks of him or what stands in his way. He needs to realize that this life is IT and he needs to frantically enjoy every, single, last, fucking, moment before he vanishes from existence when he dies.
I never let go of the shackles of depression myself until I just go fed up with it all and was determined to do things MY way and FUCK everyone else! The people worth while will always love me for who I am so long as I am empathetic and reasonable.
He needs a push, something to snap inside of him that will give him the resolve to live life on his terms and stop pitying himself.
Good luck! I've tried to mend people like that but they're always too stubborn. Perhaps you can be more patient.2
Most Helpful Girl
I think you should continue to be there for him until he learns to trust you. When somebody is abused that long - it takes them a long time to unlearn the behaviours they experienced for so long and to realize that abuse isn't normal and shouldn't be tolerated.1