Everything always says the way to get a guy/girl is to be confident and love/be yourself, but what if you just can't do that? Are you just doomed to die alone?
Most Helpful Guy
You are not doomed if "you just can't do that", but think about this, let's say you're on your deathbed (morbid, but hear me out), and you're thinking about your life and how you went through it without confidence or loving yourself, you ask yourself the question and reflect, "Did you live the way that you wished to live?" and if you didn't, "What would you have changed?" How would you see others describe your impact within their lives? Did you like what you imagined? IF not, then something has to change.
Being in a relationship while not being confident in yourself or loving yourself, isn't bad, but is that how you would want to be in the relationship? Would you be happy with yourself or mad at yourself knowing that you have settled down while not being able to fully live the life and relationship that you wish to experience? This is situational, as if let's say you found a someone who is really fully in love with you and will die with you when you two are old, that's fantastic, but what if otherwise that isn't the case? What would you do?
Nobody is doomed. It's how you think and perceive the matter that makes it seem doomed. If you think you can, then you can, but if you think you can't, then you can't. If that makes sense. Anyone can develop confidence within themselves. It's a skill in it own self, and with any type of skill, it can be learned. It just takes a FIRM decision and a growth mindset to want to improve on yourself to get things going. Set up a personal development plan for yourself to grow. Everyone has the potential to do this, but not everyone does it. Why? Because it's easier to sit within your comfort zone of less than best version of self, thinking that the world needs to change to have your life better, but in actuality if you want things to change, then you have to change. This in itself, sounds simple, but it's actually a lot of work, hard work, time, consistency, and accountability to yourself. And It's a choice that you'll have to one day decide. Be the same and average like most people or be someone better so that the world can see how bright your actual shine is.
Confidence isn't about being cocky, but being sure of yourself to take on any of life's challenges that's being thrown at you. You will be more stable - mentally and emotionally. You'll know what you want and how you want to live your life. It's super worth it than having other people telling you how to live your life. Be a master of your own music strings of destiny.1
Most Helpful Girl
It'll be harder in my opinion.1