I really don't mean to sound entitled and I have nothing against women, but I am just wondering what I could possibly do to improve myself? It also doesn't make me feel any better when I am in an apartment with 3 other roommates who all have girlfriends and are all planning for Valentine's day and I still have no one.
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Hey man. You got this. Don't let your environment dictate your circumstances or how you feel. Congrats on giving up playing video games as well. I'm sure it's tough, but it's a fantastic first step to growth. Have you ever heard of you attract who you are and not who/what you want? If no, then basically it's time for you to internally develop yourself, and since you want to at this moment, I hope I can shine a bit of perspective your way. Like another poster, there's nothing "wrong" with you, but it doesn't mean that you shouldn't improve. Girls have an intuition on knowing how to feel the other person out; gauging to see if that partner would potentialy be around for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. Since you have your physical health down, everything will be more focused on training your mindset, and with any training it's not going to be an easy task. It'll have to be done on a consistent daily basis so that your skills and abilities turns into a habit. And skills like confidence, communication, and development can be learned.
What do you have to do daily? A couple of simple things
1 - Reading book (~30 min a day) on topics that deals with success principles, communication, social interactions, body language, spiritual, etc. Anything that feeds you with positive stuff and apply them.
2 - Watching (or putting it in the background) YouTube videos that deals with motivation (~ a clip or two, depending on length) and learn from people's wisdom. Let it spark your soul
3 - Listen to Audiobook or Podcasts on things that'll give you positive growth values - to also gain knowledge.
4 - Go out there and talk to random people. Go and find 5 interesting thing about them and see what they have to say. This helps develop communication skills. Eye contact - Smile - Say Hi - How's your day? - Then use FORD (Family, Occupation, Recreation, Dreams) - What's your name? - It was great talking with you. It'll feel weird at the beginning and from time to time, but that's OK, just think that a lot of people don't have great communication skills. You'll be on all cylinders by the time you have developed yourself.
5 - Try doing different activities - e. g. - rock climbing, yoga, meditation, any thing that involves interacting with people and getting out of your comfort zone.
Do this on a daily basis and it will help you develop yourself. Don't give up even in the toughest of times where it seem like nothing has changed. It will. KEEP PUSHING. Strengthen Your Self Foundation