We went out together 3 different times over the course of the last month and a half and had a great time together. A lot of playful touching, flirting, said that we like each other and spending time together, etc and even went for and got the kiss the 2nd time out.
Last time after we went out, I let her know that I'd be interested in pursuing a relationship with her. She replied with "I'm flattered, but with my schedule right now I don't think I'd be able to fully commit and I would make a bad girlfriend, but it's something we can talk about in the future. You are smart, funny, handsome and the ballsiest person I know (I can't remember the last time someone asked me out in person), there is nothing about you I wouldn't want to date and it's something we can talk about a little further down the road." And that she would still like to go out with me whenever she is in town.
She currently lives a few states away, but is planning on moving back in the next couple of months. I didn't get the "this isn't going to work out or we should stop seeing each other vibes" so I wasn't going to give up on her.
We had plans to go out this weekend to dinner and bowling, but she had to postpone it another week because she got sick (she sounded like she was dying on the phone). She said she was really upset that she wasn't able to make it and had been really looking forward to seeing me.
Question is, do you think I still have a good chance with this girl of eventually moving things forward and just taking things slow for now and enjoying each other?
Most Helpful Guy
I think in your situation you have a couple of options
If things are going to take a while say over 4 months before things start progressing then you could hook up with other girls if you want
If things will progress more recent then id say wait for
Don't be needy or desperate, there's nothing wrong with asking her how long things will take as long as its not over done, asked to often or dont in a whiny complainy way
As long as you dont become desperate and such and keep options open for yourself id say you have an excellent shot
Just make sure you take care of yourself and she's not stringing you along
Hope things go well
Most Helpful Girl
I think that you do still have a chance! You have mutual respect and patience with each other which is a very positive thing! Also she seems very genuine and true with her words, and since you didn't get any fishy vibes from her then I would say that you aren't being led on like a puppy dog. But don't pressure her into anything (although you haven't to begin with). With time and patience I'm pretty sure you to will get together!
Also, taking it slow is good! You can process everything that is happening thus making her feel a bit more stable than just racing into a relationship, if you know what I mean?