Have an opinion?
It depends on the person, my mom cheated on my dad. They had been fighting a lot leading up to it, but then again my ex cheated on me and I was the only one who was really unhappy in the relationship because he didn't respect my boundaries or wishes and pushed me into things i didn't agree to. He never showed dissatisfaction to me, but apparently he had been complaining about how i wouldn't give him a blowjob. I think its mostly due to them not recieving as much sexual satisfaction as they expected more than being unhappy, and they justify their actions by blaming the other person and saying they weren't good enough. In my ex's case i think he convinced himself that I did wrong by saying no, and therefore was trying to justify his own actions in his mind.
The exboyfriend cheating is brutal and terrible, and pretending like it's your fault is poor, if that's what he did. This was all about him being an asshole, not about you or the lack of blowjobs. As for no blowjobs... that is a hard one to live without, unless the girlfriend lovingly explains that it's about her, and not him. We guys take it personally if our girl isn't into blowing us. It's like we feel unworthy or something. It definitely won't make us cheat... only assholes are cheaters. It just makes us feel rejected... unless there's a loving conversation from the girl. Just thought I'd add my two cents here, hahaha! I'm sorry you were cheated on, that's harsh.
Yeah well the thing about that is i told him I was not ready for a blowjob yet, it's not that I was never going to give it to him it just seemed every time I looked over at him he was trying to touch me innapropriately and breathing down my neck, he was a virgin and so was I, he wanted to lose it and i explained to him at the beginning that I was in no rush to do anything sexual and that I was simply dating at that point because I like him and i thought it would be fun to hang out and cuddle and stuff, i told him it could change in the future but probably not for a year or so, well skip to 2 dates later and he's being creepy af so I'm really turned off by this because I explained to him very nicely that I wasn't ready.
Read the new book The State Of Affairs by Esther Perel and you'll discover that there are many sides to infidelity that have never been given the proper attention.One thing I discovered in my own life, when my exwife cheated on me, is that some people have very fulfilling happy marriages and cheat for their own selfish desires. This was hard for me to accept at first, but it's true.And the list of "reasons" someone might chase after extra attention or affection or the fantasies of desire is long and endless. Chasing desire doesn't necessarily mean there's some broken underlying issues in the person or relationship... we ALL love to feel good.~ Robby
Although people try to give reason why they cheated none ever justify it as it's always a choice that the person makes at the end of the day
There is no valid reason behind cheat
You cannot undo this action. The opinion owner is going to be notified and earn 7 XPER points.