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Think of this question in a physics perspective. Say the person you’re interested in has potential energy. Like a bullet. The compression cap of the bullet create a internal spark and ignites the powder to creat pressure to accelerate the bullet down the barrel and to its final destination. The potential is stable, your aim with the bullet is clear and true. But is the gun (the relationship) meant to handle and guide the potential energy of the bullet down the right path? You need to find that answer before considering the potential.
Right. It's equally as important to materialize an environment where potential can grow or else you'll stay stagnant.
Exactly! That’s the key to everything my good sir!
Good show! Excellent utilization of your illustrative capabilities.
Sometimes, a different illustration for the same story allows a better understanding of the answer to be had.
A process called dampening the sponge... Okay, I made that up🤣🤣🤣
Hahaha! I love that! I’m going to have to steal that from you. 🤣
Nope. I date the person for who they are now, not for who they might once be.
It works if you are ready to make it work
I do, but I also would be attracted based on what they're doing now, and if they're working toward that goal somehow. Like if she wants to be a highly sought after MD, but she's not studying, doesn't have a job, not looking for a job, not going to school... then it's not attractive, no matter how much she says she's gonna do it. Maybe... but it might not happen... especially if the other stuff is her typical way of doing things. A woman living with mom and dad but taking huge credit hours for classes, trying to hold down a job, volunteers in something related to her field, etc... to me, that's completely different from a woman who lives with mom and dad and fools around all day and has no interest in working. If a guy is like "I'm gonna be a rap star!" and you support that, great. But he's gotta be doing something serious with trying to make that happen - otherwise, it's just talk. He's gotta be writing music, studying music, studying the business, trying to meet with other rappers and artist's and singers, and record execs, and producers, recording music, learning music programs, and listening to albums, in addition to figuring out a "fallback" item so he can take care of himself at least a little... If he's doing most of that, and has some skill, then by all means, give it a go. If he's saying he wants to be a rapper, but then all he's doing is listening to other rappers all day, never wanting to study anything or take any of it seriously... then be careful. Either way, it might not happen. I think if he could realize that to some degree, and find something similar to do, while working a job... then that's something... you just have to be somewhat realistic about it; by all means, have a dream, take some risks, but don't be naive about potential vs what's going on now. If he's doing nothing to work toward his goal, and he's demanding you pay for everything for years so that he can do very little while he "works on his dream," then don't count on it happening. But if he's contributing AND working on his dream, then by all means, support him. Stick up for him (especially if you think he can do it). But don't look at just the "claimed" potential. And don't JUST look at the last six months or future six months, either. If you think he will do it - he has the talent, some connections, the guts, the work attitude... you might have something that'll work.
Been there. Tried that. Dated a pretty girl with a good heart and a high IQ. She was a damn good cook, and we had a lot of the same interests. The problem is when I got with her she was an addict. At first I didn't know but when I found out, I thought I could help her. She had so much potential. Rather than improve, she went down hill further. She went from just smoking meth occasionally to shooting up meth and pills. Started stealing a lot, using me for money or a place to stay, and having sex with other people (her nasty strung friends.)
That. Went. Dark. Expeditiously.
Never do that. Do not go into a relationship with the hopes they will get better than they are now or thinking you can change them.Only they change themselves. Everybody goes through what you went through with that sort of thinking but after a few failed attempts most quickly learn.
i think i've waited to do date based on potential. i wouldn't actually date on potential though. either way both are wasteful in my opinion. unless you know for sure you are both working on it, t but usually its done in silence and only one person knows -one who is waiting of course lol
Although I guess dating you’re getting to know them so in a sense we all date for potential. No one is exactly who they will be in the moment.- rap when nervous etc.. And it’s not marriage. Dating is testing potential. Relationship is trying it out. Marriage is deciding they had it.
Alright, think about it.Almost everyone has heard or been told to not change for anyone, yet so many of us opt to start relationships with people and try to change our partners. We only cheat ourselves when trying to change someone for such mundane a reason as love or companionship.
I date because I want to know more about a person before I decided to begin a relationship. I’m very methodical about it. I do know when I’m compatible with someone. It takes a while. However I would have to be both physically and emotionally attracted to the person. Cannot be one or the other. Both.
Don't, since everyone has the potential to become great. But few do the actions nessecary to achieve it.
Angela Bassett is so beautiful, look at those babies.
That comes naturally. Focus more of chemistry and personality and less on looks and image.
Believe me; on God. I don't date for looks but maybe I should start.
I date after I realize how good trust worthy a person is I focus on the quality of ones personality not its potential quality
To some extent i guess I do but they must also see potential in themselves
I used to do this. It was horrible. Date someone for their actions. How they treat you?
What do u mean potential? People that are out of shape or people that are an emotional mess?
I do. I agree it's disappointing most of the time.99 percent.
I prefer to date people who I already know.
I think I have. Not anymore tho.
I use to not anymore though
the what? i don't understand the question
I guess to a point
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