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Personally, I'm very, very picky. Every single woman I've courted is:- Nubian and/or Arab- At least bilingual- Highly educated (an architect, a medical doctor, a dentist... etc).- A practicing Sunni Muslim who is slightly conservative.- Last, but not least, I assess personality and behavior diligently: Is she kind? How is her relationship with her family generally, and parents especially? Does she have grit? And so forth...One important thing that I've learned is to consider looks, but not overemphasize it. I would consider dating a girl even if I didn't find her physically attractive because that perspective may change a little. In the couple of times where I didn't consider a girl to be attractive at first, I'd give her a shot and as I learn about some of her better qualities something clicks on my mind and she starts to also look physically attractive to me somehow.This leads me to an important question to some people: Why get hitched to someone because they're hot, but they also hurt you; literally hurt you physically or psychologically?
I mean there's a guideline that I stay within when considering if a guy is dateable. I mean the obvious "no nos" are things like - no drugs, isn't into polygamous relationships, isn't a 24/7 couch potato... etc. But I don't think I ever had a cookie cutter "ideal guy" in mind. I simply always hoped for a guy who would love me unconditionally and would share similar interests and values as me. And if our personalities clicked, we'd take it from there. But if I had to lay out some certain requirements that I generally look for... they would be listed as followed lolCharacter: Faithfulness, dependability to where he's able to follow through, nurturing qualities, good morals and values. Personality: loving and classic romantic, has same humour sense, intelligence in always striving for more, passionate not just in bed but in enjoying what life has to offer and being an adventurous one, secure in himself. Physically: Straight teeth and a nice smile, good sense of style, clean, good healthy physical build.
I have all of those Gracia, want to date?
Hahaha you know very well that I'm going steady with a fellow Filipino. I'd set you up with his younger sister... But her age may be problematic as she's still 11 😅
Lol thanks for the thought, but I would have to pass Gracia.
She must be:1. considerate2. secular, and without other magical "new-age" beliefs3. culturally literate so I don't have to explain everything I say. This means having some familiarity with western art, music, literature, and a basic knowledge of history, geography, and science. 4. fluent in English because sadly that's the only language I speak5. sexually compatible6. not politically conservative7. at least moderately fit -- able to and happy to walk two or three miles8. drug & tobacco free
Semi strict.Some are things I believe I couldn't stand: lack of intelligence (I like talking about things and debates), smoking, alcoholic, drugs, violent (though I wouldn't mind martial arts practice every now and again, but that's slightly different).Some things I think are biological: I only tend to be attracted to caucasians. While I can note attractivity in some other races, I am not attracted to them myself.Some things I would like, but would be willing to do without, though.
If the guy I’m dating is a druggy I’m out. I can accept the occasional bong rip but nothing more. If the guy doesn’t understand my humor either that’s an automatic no. I’m pretty open regarding appearance, but I need some form of attraction to the guy either physically and mentally.
When I was younger, looks and them treating me with respect and care is requirements that I thought to be sufficient.As I am now, my standards are very high.My remaining time on earth is the most valuable thing for me, I'm not spending it with anyone unless they are the cream of the crop.Until recently, I thought that my standards are too high for anyone to actually meet them, so I didn't really bother to pursue anyone, as they didn't outweigh the value of my time.
My dealbreakers:1) Excessive alcohol and/or drug use 2) Disrespect3) Dishonesty4) Has cheated multiple times in past relationshipsThe above is a list of things I would not be open to no matter how attractive the person is.
I wouldn't go for anybody unsavoury, stupid or lacking in empathy.Obviously, I'd also have to find her attractive, too.But I don't have a tick list, as such, in a conscious way. It just sorts itself out, I guess.
I'm strict where it matters and lax where it does not. Obviously she has to be a Christian that isn't crazy liberal but if she wants to drive the car all the time or hates eating fish I can make compromises.
1. Physically attractive (doesn’t have to be SUPER hot, but decent looking at least, and physically fit)2. Secular / non-religious3. Non promiscuous (never has been, either)4. Intelligent and able to debate (politely) about various topics.5. Ambitious (since I am, too)6. Respectful, compassionate and patient.
Hell yes. When I'm being in a relationship with a guy, I do so with the intention to make the relationship last forever. So literally I would spend the rest of my life with him and he will be the father of my kids so my kids will learn from his examples. I would definitely choose my man wisely.
And what consideration would be wise?
@Tomblebee first and foremost, how he is as a person. I do not want a dumb man with no discipline no sincerity no respect and whatsoever.
It's scary to think that my kids might act like me in their youth and I would be hypocritical to scold them.. Imagine parenting yourself?
@Tomblebee the only thing that I can say is: in a world with such advanced technology we can no more control their actions. We need to guide them so that they do not fall in danger.
No alcoholics, No substance abusers. Other than that, id like her to be straightforward enough to tell me if she is enjoying or not, and what i can do to make the date better. Pretty generic actually. Someone who can talk, respects that she is here not for the food but to socialise. Lastly, someone who isn't selfish , and is considerate. Other than that its all fine.
My only requirements are her being a good Christian and straight. My biggest wants are being virgin, having long red hair, and loving video games.There’s also virginity which I’m uncertain of it being a necessity or just barely only a great want.
this is literally person to person, some people are strict on the person they date being of the same religion, or political beliefs and others aren't. I know people who fall into both categories.
How about you?
I am open to the idea of not agreeing on everything but their are certain politicians that if they like that is a deal breaker for me, there are also certain beliefs that if the have that is also a deal breaker. I like to date men that are not insecure of themselves and if they have beliefs that connect to that then thats a no go. Also some personal opinions are a no go if they are hateful ones. But I am open to the idea of someone different. It depends a lot on who they are as a person and even if we disagree if they are respectful of my beliefs then that is a good sign. Also I should add some religions require the other person to convert, for me that is a deal breaker but I know of some people who have converted to marry someone they love.
Okay, thanks for sharing. I’m similar
yeah, no problem, if there is someone in particular you like just ask her for her opinion, she will most likely tell you, I cannot imagine why she wouldn't.
The only strict requirements I have is that she gotta be cute, have some type of booty, have some sense of humor, and have morals.. Other than that.. Not too much..
Yes. Must have no past or future with drugs of any kind, must be taller then me, and that’s pretty much it lol.
Which one are you valiant? The woman to the left or right?
It’s forever a mystery to GaG.
I command you to tell me.
Mistake #1 was trying to command me😂😂
Nah fam gotta keep the mystery alive
You’re being difficult Valiant lol
No I’m being very blunt.
Wow, for a sec there I thought it was the mirror filter Lol :)
@Tomblebee that is one I haven’t heard before😂
Kust because it's a small icon and two red dresses lol 😂
Honestly what captures my attention about a guy is his eyes and smile. Personality wise I don't think I have strict requirements, same with body type. I have liked guys of all shapes and sizes.
I have some strict requirements, after that, a lot of things I'm open to.
I tend to be open and don't have strict requirements besides the obvious "no serial killers"
I don't do single dad. Or people who do drugs and drink like crazy. I don't do guys who sleep around with everything.
I’m perfect for you then.
No because I live a 400 pound life.
I don’t care.
Am open to various type it helps me to learn about how you behave and if you are the right one for me
I used to be a bit lose on the standards, not anymore though.
I want to know her past.I'm not interested in a slut.
Physically, not really- I like a wide variety of women.Morally, I want us to be of the same Intellectually, I want someone to challenge mePersonality wise, I would want someone funny, patient, and kind hearted
I just judge them as a whole package after getting to know them.
The one and only absolute dealbreaker is clinginess/jealousy. I’m willing to overcome most imperfections but this is a hard no.
Strict requirements like:1. He should be patient2. He should care for me3. Have a high charisma & charm4. Is funny5. Is intelligentlast but not least I should love him lol
If I am attracted then it's okay I don't have strict rules.
Strict requirementsNot lots of lists or qualities but kinda contradicting ones that are hard to find in a one person.
I exclusively date blond men.
I am open to various types of people
I am open to all kinds of people
Open to all types except assholes
I am open to different types of people
Id say I'm lenient, but I do have my standards
I take 'em as they show up.
Yes, I'm strict.
Wide open lol
Yes you are aren't you... :P
@rockrewls lmao 😂😂😂
A bit of both.
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