Who should make the first contact after a date?

Who should make the first contact after a date?

  • Man
    Vote A
  • Woman
    Vote B
  • One who asked for that date
    Vote C
  • One who agreed to go that date
    Vote D
  • One who paid the bill
    Vote E
  • One who didn't pay the bill
    Vote F
  • Other/ I don't know
    Vote G
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Most Helpful Girl

  • The gender doesn't matter. Both should just go for it if they're interested instead of sitting around and expecting to be messaged or playing games with the other.
    I believe I added my partner on fb first & gave my number to him first after meeting him through friends, but he asked me out on the first date, and usually had the tendency to message me first.
    It honestly should have that two-way feel where both are making some kind of effort.

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Most Helpful Guy

  • Not only do a lot of women think the guy should be the one to ask the girl out and pay for date, he should also be the one to make first contact after the date. What is the girl supposed to do?

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What Girls Said 19

  • I prefer the man to, but i'm happy to do it aswell, just to say i had a nice time or whatever, but i'd rather know they wanted to message me and weren't just replying out of politeness

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    • Do not message him first, let him do it and if he doesn't, move on.

    • @azzntittiz and how can he know if you're not just doing it yourself?

  • Whoever is more straight forward I guess. I don't mind being open about my feelings so I really don't see the point of holding out and acting uninterested (of you really are). I get that building suspense can help but I think that's more beneficial once the interest and attraction is already estsblished, not while the other person is worrying about the impression they've made on you.

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  • I sent my now husband a text the next day
    "thank you for last night I had a really good time". It's good manners that's all.

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  • I don't think it matters. Just if you want to contact than contact

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  • Other
    Dose not matter who ever feels its right just needs to do it

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What Guys Said 36

  • Whoever does it first, doesn't matter really. Whoever gives in first and decides to text. People always wait for the other to call or text and then no one ever does because they are waiting for the other...

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  • I used to always make first contact but I noticed that every girl that I got serious with in the past would literally text me like an hour after the date.

    So now I stopped making first contact because I feel like it's a useful "interest screening mechanism"

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  • lol who the hell cares? that's extremely childish to set up rules like that. If he comes across your mind, text him. If she comes across your mind, text her. Literally that simple.

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  • Whoever decides to text first. There is no gendernormative rules behind this anymore. Why can't people just tell the other person what they enjoyed or not and stop stressing about who should do it first.

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  • The woman.

    It’s virtually always the man who sets up the date, a woman sending the first text after the date confirms she liked it and likes guy - unless, obviously, she says otherwise.

    Lmao at the girls who think the man should... you expect him to do everything, don’t you.

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