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It's possible, but that's something to address with him, although you should phrase it differently, e. g., whether his social circle would be happy if you were his girlfriend.
I see. Someone told me to not bother dating a much older lawyer or a surgeon because they all care about social standing and that he’s going to be an outcast for dating me a much younger 23 year old. Do you think this is true?
That's a good question. In some places and some social circles, yes, but I wouldn't let that stop you.
Why would he refuse to? Is the age different a big gap. It also depends on which type of sector you work in. Friends may or not be judgmental, it depends on the individual.
If he’s a surgeon or a lawyer for example. Yes, the age gap is significant. Like 20 years. I know a politician who is engaged to a girl who is significantly younger and he doesn’t seem to care.I’m asking because a guy told me to not pursue a guy who is much older than me because if he’s a lawyer or a surgeon at a hospital, he’s going to be an outcast if he does date me. And that there’s kinds of people care about their social standing. What do you think?
As long as your both adults, I don't see why not. If he treats you right and he should not care what people thinks. He would not be in this relationship otherwise. I do think 20 years is a bit too big, I would personally go for at least 10 years or a bit for now for me. But age is just a number and older guys are mature and wise. But loads of guys date younger women nowadays. It's sad but ladies who date younger men are the ones who are judue, not men. I would be thinking oh wow he's a lawyer or a surgeon and that's a good hard working proffessional instead. Does your friend know first hand and works in that proffession? I don't think they would care as they are busy.
I see. Is it probable that a guy like this would reject me if the age difference is 20 years? Some people are saying that he will.
I think it depends on the guy. Do you know if he dated younger women in the past? Also if you see the signs he likes you. Also in my place of work some people date people and they always gossip to make the day go quicker, even if the couple in their 20s. Sometimes people just talk, just ignore. Also I don't think guys care about gossip or people think.
I see. This has been on my mind all day long because I’m only attracted to older men and I’m scared of what the chances will be that they will reject me. I mean, I know this sounds silly, but do older men really do feel attracted to attracted to younger women for the most part even if they have a lot of options?
This is just a hypothetical scenario. I still haven’t met one I’m interested in lol.
Older guys always like younger girls. He would be flattered. Also you never know if he likes you if you try.
Just see how things go
Thanks for the MHO
If he is your coworker then there's a good chance of him rejecting you otherwise not really.
No, he’s not my coworker.
20 year age gap and he's a surgeon? Well... I suppose it's a little more probable that he'll reject you. If I were him I'd be a bit concerned that you're a gold-digger though.
Why is it probable that he’ll reject me?
Because of the age difference or fear that I’m a golddigger?
In more prestigious jobs reputation matters a bit more... But I'm just talking out of my ass so you should just ask him and who cares if you get rejected?
Is his reputation going to get ruined for dating me?
Or I should ask, do surgeons’ reputations get ruined for dating younger women?
I don't really know... Perhaps if people think he's only dating you because you're younger. Though I think you're old enough to where it doesn't really matter. Maybe if you were 18-21, but since you're 23 then he's probably gonna be fine.
Only if he's like 55 n she's 7. But seriously... only shallow insecure and media brainwashed idiots would judge a large age gap...
I agree. I’m 23 and I like older men. I’m just scared that he’ll refuse to date me if he’s a professional because he’ll be afraid of being judged or if they do become outcast for dating younger women. Are men looked down upon or are they high fived for dating younger chicks?
Im sad for you. Im in a large agr gap n it took a while for us to be accepted. If ye love each other then go for it n reveal it on a need to know basis
Will he refuse to date me out of fear of not being accepted? Especially if he’s a doctor or a lawyer?
I can't say cos i dont know his personality but if he's mature and strong then he shud date you.. even if its on the QT until ye see how it pans out.
I see. So it’s an individual thing. It has nothing to do with their profession? But, do guys in these professions get judged harshly for it?
It can be a professional thing yes sadly.
It can, but will every guy in these professions feel this way?
No. Thankfully there are strong men who dont bow to peer pressure... i never have anyway. (PM me if ud like to disuss deeper)
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