I've been seeing this guy and he's great except, well, he's scrawny. Like not even muscular either.
I like a guy with some meat on his bones. Even a little chub is fine with me.
Is there a tactful way to ask my new guy to put on a little weight? I would love to see him eat more. We went out to dinner for st. Paddys day and all he ordered was wings as an appetizer and didn't even finish them.
I just find it hard to be physically attracted to him when he's this scrawny.
But... I don't want to be the woman who tries to change her man...
Most Helpful Guy
Interesting scenerio. Ill give you advice based on my experience of being slightly overweight, as opposed to scrawny. If I had my woman ask me “hey, I want you to be thinner” (obviously not probable dialect), I probably wouldn't think twice before heading to a gym because I would do anything to please her. You could say the same for the opposite scenerio, say I were scrawny. Overall, my first tip is just to ask it blatantly. In relationships, weight is a grey area nobody likes to cross. but it has to be done, and one way is blatantly. of course, the big variable here is personality though. Personally, I think I am one who doesn't mind confrontation, etc. So in the case that your boyfriend isn't that type of person, my alternative piece of advice is to make a judgement on his personality. Is he confrontable? frail? in between? Based on what you see in him is how you should act.
Sorry for any obscure, or mislead advice. Like I mentioned, weight is a greyzone, and no matter what, mentioning it to him will be awkward for at least one of you. Hope I helped
TLDR; Is he confrontable? if so, ask him straight up. there's no way around it0
Most Helpful Girl
Good for him regularly and encourage him to work out with you.0