Most Helpful Guy
When it's an ex or someone you've had sex with before I can understand it and I don't think it has anything to do with sociopathy as one person said, I think that's a silly comment.
People today think that you should blindly trust the person that you're with. I'm not saying that you shouldn't trust your partner, but today a lot more cheating goes on than in the past. People sleep around more, we have the internet that makes it much easier to sneak around and talk to people behind the partner's back.
When it comes to exes and people you've had sex with in the past, old feelings can come back. At some point you either loved them or felt a lot of attraction for them - that can come back again, and if a person is weak when it comes to self-control and their behaviour is dictated by their emotions, things can happen. Or they might be sneaky and plan for it to happen, and of course they'll always tell you otherwise.
It can't come back if you don't speak to them. There's no suspicion if you don't speak to them. I don't understand this modern idea that "it's the mature thing to do" to stay friends with your exes and everybody gets along and it's all fine. It usually doesn't happen that way. I think even a lot of people who allow it deep down don't like it but they allow it because they're so afraid that people will call them insecure, jealous, controlling etc.
I even had an ex where she complained about this with her exes not letting her be friends with guys/exes of hers, and although I never said anything to her and I let her be friends with whoever she liked I asked the same questions here a couple of times. Most people told me I was in the wrong for being weary about it, called me all of the above. In the end she was cheating.
I just think those people are naive to be honest and I just don't get it. Your partner should come before exes.
Most Helpful Girl
You see I’m a very trusting person in relationships. My opinion is you can hang out with who ever you like and I am trusting you be faithful. Even if you’re surrounded by girls who are attracted to you as long as you’re faithful it doesn’t matter to me. So I wouldn’t mind at all but that being said I’m very much someone who would never someone who would forgive a cheat because I feel if you need me to control who you’re with to stop you from cheating you’re not someone worth being with in the first place. But that’s just me.
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