Why does he act so uncomfortable around me?

My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months, most of that has been long distance (2 hours) but I do spend most weekends with him.

He is a very quite, sweet, sensitive person, who tends to be a little bit social awkward (but so am I so it really works most of the time)

He doesn’t seem to think of himself very highly, which I hate because he is very good looking, kind, funny and very sweet.

We’ve never fought about anything, and are usually on the same page regarding almost everything.

I figured that it would take awhile for him to really be comfortable around me, because I know it takes me a long time to warm up to people.

It’s been six months now tho, and it seems like he’s always afraid to say or do anything that may offend me, or to make plans/plan dates because he’s afraid it won’t be what I want to do.

This guy is all about pleasing me, and doing whatever I want even if it might not be wants.

I know, what a thing to complain about, right?

But I want him to be happy too, and not feel like he has to walk on eggs shells around me for fear of me getting mad.

An example of this. I worked an overnight shift, and then immediately went up to visit him, knowing that he had a commitment for a few hours during the day (we talked about it before hand) so the plan was for him to go to his meeting, and for me to hang back and take a nap since I had been up for almost 27 hours straight. His meeting was only supossed to be an hour, but ended up being almost 3. So when he got back he let me sleep for an extra couple of hours (even tho I asked him to wake me up when he got home) and when I finally woke up he aplogized multiple times. I tried to assure him that it was perfectly fine, and I was glad to get some extra sleep. Even after I left to go back home, he messaged me and apologized that he was gone so much, even tho it was only 3 hours out of the whole 2 days I was there. He’s very sweet,, but I feel bad he is so afraid sometimes.

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  • I don't know you should talk to him about it

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  • ''This guy is all about pleasing me, and doing whatever I want even if it might not be wants. I know, what a thing to complain about, right? ''

    Actually, it is something to complain about because you want someone with a backbone, a mind of their own, and assertiveness. You want the traits of a man and the masculine energy that comes with it that compliments your feminine energy, not someone that is afraid of you.

    I think there is a lot you may not be saying here, or even to yourself but I can sense it.

    Concerning this comment

    ''It’s been six months now tho...''

    Not really. Add up all of the time you've actually spent together, what quality is it... that will tell you whether it's really been 6 months or not.

    It seems to me that on top of the social awkwardness, he has self esteem issues too. It sounds like he's suffering from being too nice which many mistake for a positive trait, but in reality it can cause a lot of problems in life in general.

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  • Make him want you even more. That's what I would do if I were girl. That gives boy confidence

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