I've recently been chatting with a girl from a dating site but I’m really confused as to what to do.
Everything seemed to be going well with flirting and she even agreed to meet me once her exams are over. She would initiate around 50% of the convos and would send me selfies of her without me asking for them.
However the past few days have been different. She now reads my message (WhatsApp) but doesn’t reply to me. So I decided to leave it a couple days from messaging her again.
I messaged her this afternoon and she said she didn’t think I wanted to talk as I hadn’t messaged her but was glad to hear I did want to talk to her. Then of course later on she goes and im currently waiting for a reply from 3 hours ago.
Im doubting whether I should bother anymore because this is irritating me so much. I don’t have time for games and I can’t be dealing with them either.
Does anyone have any advice?
Im not gonna message her for at least a day, see if she messages me.
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Online dating it difficult, it takes patience, commitment, understanding, and a lot of good faith placed in people you're connecting with.
As for this girl, I think one of two possibilities happened.
1) Recently she's found someone in real life / personal life to date, and has given a break from connecting with you online, since she's not gaining attention from someone in real life and doesn't want to get attached to someone whos online, even if she agreed to meet you. Maybe she figures not replying or easing up with the messaging will let you down gently, or give you a hint at least.
2) She's busy with exams, and perhaps has other things going on in her life that are keeping her occupied. Maybe she can't talk as much as she wants to right now, but give it time. You can also send her a message, just reassure her and let her know you're there if she needs to talk, or wants someone to listen. ALSO remind her you're interested in her, and tell her a couple things you see in her or like about her.
She may have just become busy with things lately, and hasn't had time to spare on dating sites.
It's up to you if you want to continue putting effort into this, but no matter what you choose, make sure you think of yourself first. YOU know what you need, what you want, and what you're looking for. So don't wait around if you don't wanna :) Good luck, I hope things workout the best for you!