Just had a big argument with my boyfriend, what should I do now? Can I have people's opinions?

Basically I have been getting upset, before me and him got together he text me a lot rang me a lot and as soon as we were exclusive it died down, some times he hardly speaks to me and cuts me short on the phone, I got really pissed off today when he done it again and got angry and then I got really upset and sent him loads of paragraphs telling him how pissed I am, he rang me and asked me if I was ok and I said yeh but I'm confused why do you hardly want to speak to me before we got together you used to speak non stop and he admitted that ' before we got together he was chasing me and trying to get me then now he knows I'm his he doesn't feel the need to talk as much ' :( I don't know what to think am I asking for too much? Is it normal for him to act like this and say he doesn't feel the need to speak all the time since we're official? Is this normal?

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  • I can say that the most guys react the same way based on my personal experience and also friends experience.
    The difference between a guy and a girl when in a relationship is that when a guy feels some kind of comfort they stop feeling the need to keep talking to you, because they already know you're his, you love him, you will be there and u can wait for him because there are feelings involved. Which I think is really selfish and makes them into kind of assholes.

    But girls on the other hand get used to the attention and they expect the saaame treatment all the time. Which guys can't get into their heads for some reason.

    I don't know if even discussion will help honestly but you can try. And I would get upset in your place and it's happened before, I agree it's terrible and you have all right to be upset.

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  • The chase is the start of the fun contact shouldn't die down due to you being official. Sounds to me he can't be bothered with the effort. You need to remind him once you have a girl you still need to keep up the effort to keep her or someone else will

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  • Well if he loves you he will never get bored of u i think he just wanted you not as a girlfriend but for his ego. And he doesn't seem to care :/ just dont talk to him or message defo no paras and he pop up hiimelf

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  • He needs to realise that a relationship needs maintenance. Hopefully, he doesn't apply his strategic to everything else because one day he will start slacking with sex, birthdays, hygiene etc.

    Talk to him. Not over text but in person and not in a harsh, demeaning way, perhaps he will hear you out.

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  • Happens to me often. I hate that. I typically lose interest fast. Because the attention was attractive but once gone I feel neglected and move on. I swear this is one of lifes mysteries

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  • Sometimes the pursuit is what makes it fun for some guys. Once they have you, they change behavior. Maybe ask if he truly wants to be with you or if he just liked pursuing you

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  • "loads of paragraphs" .. lol Careful what u wish for.. if he starts talking too much and starts acting like your girlfriend, u might start losing attraction for him.

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  • Well you could get something he wants. When he didn't have you he wanted something from you. So get something he wants, give it to him then take it away. A forever chase!

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  • The chase can be half the fun for some blokes make him fight for ur attention

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  • As someone that has gone through this before. I would stop texting him. And stop calling him. Make him chase you again. You stop contact and he's gonna wonder why you're not texting him. Which is gonna make him text you.

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  • Wait till you both calm down

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