Also I dated a guy with a 4 year old before and he didn’t tell me until the 2nd date and he said, so there is something that could ruin all of this and make you want to end it but I have to tell you and he told me he had a child.
Am I missing something more and should I really be reconsidering? What are things to consider when dating someone with a child (besides the child is their number 1 priority and takes up a great deal of their time and money?)
Most Helpful Guy
Im a father with full custody ofa (now fully grown) child, and I appreciate the problems this can cause while dating.
Besides the fact, as you mentioned, that the child must be their priority, and that priority can affect a lot of things, dates, vacations, purchases etc. There are other issues.
He may expect you to help him raise the child at some point. That would make you a mother before you're ready to be one.
There's baby mama drama. The child's mother can create all kinds of drama if she wants to. This can range from criticizing your parenting, and trying to deny him parental rights as a result, to dropping the kid off without notice just as you're about to go on vacation.
Later on, when that kid becomes a teenager, you you'durprised how much that kid can do to hurt you. "You're not my mother, you can't tell me what to do!" Is a frequent refrain.
That said, it can be done and doesn't always turn out that way if everyone involved tries to act like an adult.
Most Helpful Girl
It's important the kid likes you, or at least doesn't mind you around.